why are you mums not teaching your kids

Veronica - posted on 10/28/2014 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Why are you mums not teaching your kids to stay away from drugs and about condoms and safe sex. Why are you not teaching them about preditors and pedifiles. It all start with mum and dad. So teach them that even grandpa and grandma (not saying all are) could be dangerous. Its all about them knowing where one can and should not be touched. I'm so over the number of children being damaged by not knowing

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Becki - posted on 10/30/2014

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Why aren't you taking your kids out into the garden on a clear night to look at the stars?

Why don't you take them out to look for rainbows when the sun is shining and it's raining?

Why don't you take them out to make mudpies in the park after a storm?

I'm making a lot of assumptions here (following the example you've set), but I also suspect I'm right, because you seem to be focussed on the most grim aspects of life and ignoring all the wonderful and beautiful things about it, fear can be an isolating thing. It will be especially lonely for your kids if you're spending your time instilling in them that anyone they meet could be dangerous.

Of course, there are awful things, there are dangers, and as parents it is our responsibility to give our kids the tools to deal with those dangers as they arise. Self confidence, body confidence, right from wrong, courage to stand up and speak out about what you believe in. We can throw facts and figures at kids all day long and terrify them until they're too scared to go out and live their lives, or we can prepare them to make their own responsible decisions.

In short, tool them up, don't scare them to death!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/29/2014

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And why are you taking others, who you don't even know, to task? Are YOU the PERFECT PARENT? Do you ALWAYS make appropriate decisions and choices for YOUR KIDS?

Until you do, HOW DARE YOU accuse others of lacking?

I'm so OVER the people, such as yourself, who choose to place blame back on victims and their families...

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Queen Of - posted on 11/01/2014

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Well, no matter what a CHILD is taught s/he is ultimately powerless against a 180lb+ adult in almost every situation.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/30/2014

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And another thing, since you're playing the blame game, Veronica...Why not call out fathers as well as mothers?

Michelle - posted on 10/30/2014

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Don't tar everyone with the same brush. You don't know what every single parent in the world does with their children.

Dove - posted on 10/29/2014

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Our ped is great at that, Jodie. Even when he has to check the infants he asks their 'permission' first... and, of course, only when parents are present.

Itsacouponthing - posted on 10/29/2014

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I agree that safety should be taught; just be sure to do it in a non-threatening, fearful way; that can be quite scarring in itself! (There are great helps out there, though, like teaching a couple of fun ways to break-out of "holds.")
That said, I think it helps to let them know when it IS okay for them to be touched there, too. For instance, my 16 year old was absolutely freaking out the other day. She has a BLISTER right between her anus and her vagina. As embarrassed as I was, I did not let her feel that. She was on the toilet, so I just walked in, closed the door, and bent down to take a decent (but not too close) look. Once I saw the blister, I went pretty close to take a better look. (I still don't know how that got there! She is NOT sexually active; we have a very close, trusting relationship.)
Now, it's true that I did not touch her, but what about someone who might need to? What if the doctor wanted to put something on that blister?
What I do is explain how most people are strangers, and no matter who they are, you keep a close, protective, safety net on your body, and on theirs. And only in very certain cases do they touch your private areas. But they need to come to you (the parent) first.

Dove - posted on 10/29/2014

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Who's to say we don't teach our kids that no one, regardless of relationship, is allowed to touch them in certain areas?

Your post reeks of victim blaming and that's almost as sick as the freaks that DO this crap to kids.

Rebecca - posted on 10/28/2014

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I've always, always, always taught my 12-year-old daughter to stay away from drugs! She hangs out with older teens, and they don't do drugs or have sex. It's not because of the parents, it's the KIDS/PRETEENS/TEENAGERS. They rebel against their parents, no matter what the moms do to ground and protect them. So sneak out at night and running away from home is "cool" as well? It also surprises me that parents let kids dress inappropriately at a young age (8-13). I've heard of young kids doing drugs, and so on!

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