John - posted on 12/17/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Being the oldest child out of three, I honestly feel resentment toward my younger siblings at times because I am angered by how much easier our parents are on them opposed to how strict they were/are with me.
Perhaps the #1 grievance is the division of chores. As a preteen, I had to mow lawns, wash dishes, mop the floor, and roll out the garbage bins every Sunday night among other chores. My little brother is a preteen and he won't even wash his own dishes after eating breakfast, and our parents do nothing to enforce such rules on him. Whenever I suggest that he take over another chore, they say that he is too young and get mad at me, despite the fact that they themselves made me do it when I was even younger than him.
I get the feeling that they are lazy. That parents think it is easier to maintain the status quo by staying hard on the oldest one because they don't want to go through the hassle of dividing the labor more fairly by introducing new chores to the younger siblings.
But on top of that, my parents were ridiculously strict about everything related to the internet when I was a kid to the point that I never got an iPhone or device with internet access until I was well into my late teens, whereas my brother got an iPhone when he was 11 and has unrestricted access to the internet. They enforce no rules or discipline on him, yet I had it 10x harder when I was a kid.
After talking with many other oldest siblings, this seems to be a common occurrence. Why do parents so often become so lazy after their first child to the extent that they are unfairly easy on their younger children while remaining so strict with the oldest?