Why aren't women imprisoned for paternity fraud?

Tribescribe - posted on 10/16/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Paternity fraud is the most evil vile thing imaginable, and it is rampant. Geneticists say that on average in the West it occurs in about 10% of families, some say 15%, others even 30%.

It's not just about stealing a man's money, it's about stealing his chance at fatherhood. From the day she tells him she's pregnant and he is crying from joy, to the day he teaches his son to ride a bike, till the day he sees him graduate, he is so proud of his child until the worst possible news hits him, he's not the father.
His entire life was a lie, his "loving wife" whom he trusted had been lying to him every step of the way. He's been robbed of his worth as a human being.

This isn't just fraud, this is cruelty, it's pure evil, not just for the father but also for the child. Why are all these witches allowed to get away with it? Is it because the victims are men and the perpetrators are women, and society never wants to punish women? I'm not saying we should stone them to death like in Islamic countries, but Christ give the man some justice at least, put her behind bars.

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Jodi - posted on 10/16/2014

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I think I will also add that these studies that show such high levels of paternity fraud are often based on those who had suspicions in the first place and therefore undertook DNA testing. You only generally do this if there are doubts. So can you see how the statistics are skewed and biased?

Probably not, but I'll just put it out there that many people DON'T DNA test because they KNOW who the father of their child is, and as a result, statistics are more in the realm of around 1-5%.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2014

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So all men who deny their children should be behind bars too? Just asking if this is an equal opportunity post.

Guest - posted on 10/16/2014

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Yea....I was going to give you some sympathy and explanation until that last sentence of your second post. That is so....there are not even words to describe the stupidity, arrogance, and disgust in that statement.

FOR YOUR INFORMATION should you have a brain healthy enough to comprehend. A woman CAN and WILL be legally penalized if she falsifies paternity test results. If the father isn't through enough to do the test, then that's his own fault.

Secondly, How is putting mom behind bars going to benefit the child? Are you going to step up and continue fathering this child you are so upset you didn't father. My guess is that you now partly hate the child too, because he is made up of the woman who lied to you (and you were too trusting to check up on--It never ceases to amaze me how much people will trust another person not to lie to them) and her lover. You will hate him even though he had no idea you weren't his dad either, and certainly had no say in picking his parents. So, I suppose since it wasn't your little swimmers fertilizing the egg, what happens to him doesn't really matter to you, does it?

Chet - posted on 10/16/2014

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I'm sorry if it sounded like I didn't care. That wasn't my intent.

There are particular cases that are terrible, and where men are truly victimized. I only wanted to point out that:

1.) situations are often complicated, and in a large percentage of the cases nobody knows for sure who the biological father is. Any time the woman can be completely certain who the father is the other man should also know that couldn't be the father because he wasn't having sex with her.

2.) if you have had a loving, fatherly relationship with a child that counts for lot. You can't take away the time a person has invested in a child. That child is still a part of you. You have still helped to make them who they are.

I understand your being very angry if you're suffering through this situation, but what about the child or children involved? Why are you so angry at women with no concern for the children?

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American - posted on 10/19/2014

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@Tribescribe ....I think women should be in trouble for this and should have to pay back the money he spent as long as it is proven that the woman knew all along. the way to get help on this site is not to attack the very women you asked. I know there are a few on this thread that ate rude and see only the black and white of this world but rank dude pick and choose your battles. the statement about Muslim women was on called for and would never happen in America as we would put our foot in your ass. if this situation has happened to you I am very sorry. not all women are like that. I hope that you would continue to love that child no matter what cause it is not at fault. please don't punish the child for the sins of thy mother. children need love and support and as long as you can do that then who gives a shot who fath ered the child.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/17/2014

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Oh my, I actually had a shred of sympathy, before I saw this: "Maybe those muslim fellows got it right, maybe the only way is to treat women like mules and property, then stone them to death when they do something like this, maybe that's the only way it works."

Go somewhere else, troll.

YOU are just as responsible for not being sure of your paternity as your hypothetical partner in this situation. if YOU have a suspicion, or a feeling, YOU also have every right to get the testing done. DID YOU????

OR did you just ASSUME that chickie was being honest from the get go, because you were thinking with your dick?

Sarah - posted on 10/17/2014

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Do agree that paternity fraud is a horrible cruel and dishonest act. However, I dispute your statistics, there is no way 3 out of 10 families are affected by this deceit.

Raye - posted on 10/17/2014

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You're obviously very hurt, and rightly so if this happened to you. It is horrible that someone would let their partner unknowingly raise a child that is possibly not theirs. I can understand how it would be completely crushing for a man to learn that. Of course, if the child isn't biologically yours, the mother knew the possibility existed and ignored it. I assume she chose you to be the father because you were the better man. But that's no consolation. However, once the man knows the score, he has a choice: continue to be a father to the child or turn his back on the child that sees him as a father. Both are difficult choices and neither seems exactly fair.

I agree with the previous responder that said putting the mother behind bars would not help the child. But there should be some kind of legal recompense. You could attempt to sue her in civil court, although money would not make up for your time and emotional investment and the court may not award you damages if it takes away from the mother being able to support the child. I don't think there would be any winner in this kind of situation, no matter what the court decided.

Tribescribe - posted on 10/16/2014

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@Chet MC, Wow you're evil. You don't even care, you don't believe men are human beings too with reproductive rights.

I wonder if your husband hatched a scheme to impregnate you with his lover's embryo using gestational surrogacy, and he tricks you into thinking you're the mother, then years down the line you find out your child isn't yours when she neither looks nor acts anything like you. I wonder if you'd be so indifferent to it then.

Btw, the witch who commits paternity fraud always knows or has suspicions her husband isn't the father, unless she was visited by the semen monster in her sleep, she always knows there's at least a possibility, but she's too wicked to care.

Maybe those muslim fellows got it right, maybe the only way is to treat women like mules and property, then stone them to death when they do something like this, maybe that's the only way it works.

Chet - posted on 10/16/2014

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I don't think actual paternity fraud happens in 10% to 30% of families. Paternity fraud suggests that genetic test results were falsified... and you probably could go to jail for that.

I believe that an estimated 10% to 30% of families have men believing (or hoping) that they are the biological father when they are not. In a lot of those cases it isn't as simple as the mom knowing the truth for certain and bold faced lying to her partner. Often the mom isn't sure who the father is, and/or her partner chooses to turn a blind eye and just be the dad.

You can be a father without being a biological parent though. If you have acted as a father and been loved as a father you are a father.

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