Why can a judge force my babysitter into letting supervised visits with dad?

Aimee - posted on 07/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So I had a baby 13 months ago. Dick, the guy who got me pregnant, was harassing me the whole time for an abortion, etc. Said if I filed for support he would file for custody to punish me. Well, since I'm not financially wealthy, I had to file for support. And he waited until our hearing date to file for custody because I wouldn't agree to his tiny amount. Keep in mind, all of our "negotiations" we via email and so it's all documented that he said he did not want a relationship, he did not want custody or parenting time if I would agree to his offer. On July 2, 2012 (8 days ago) I recevied a letter from DIck saying that he would pay $200/month and go away if I agreed to it.



Today, we went before a judge (I have an atty) and the judge heard all of this and saw the letter and emails. She heard him admit that if I lowered the payments we wouldn't be in court and he wouldn't have wanted parenting time/joint custody of the child. The judge had the audacity to say that she believes that he is willing to try to be a dad and then told me that if my babysitter did not agree to let Dick into her home for his supervised visitations that she was going to order that Dick be allowed to take my child with no introductory period. Oh, did I mention that he's never seen my 13 month old baby?!? What happened to the option of "PAID" supervised visitation with a licensed professional!??!?! What can I do to keep this from happening? My babyistter does not want to be involved and the other mothers are not comfortable with a strange man being in her home with their children. My attorney just sat there with his finger up his butt and said nothing!! I'm sick to my stomach, as I'd rather agree to $200 and he go away than to have his filthy, hateful hands on my daughter.



What are my options???



Thanks,



Aimee

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Amy - posted on 07/11/2012

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You could always meet him in a public place, suck as resturant ect. Have your lawyer give some places to meet at. This is if you cant work out something. Has he changed his mine on wanting to be a parent? or His he only doing this to get back at you? I'm confused was there any feelings between the both of you and if so could you both work it out for the child's sake.?. good luck.

Aimee - posted on 07/10/2012

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Unfortunately, my family lives 2000 miles away and now that he's filed for j/c & parenting time, I cannot relocate. I had to turn down a promotion because of him.

Amy - posted on 07/10/2012

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FIRST, GET A NEW LAWYER. Im cvery sorry for u. but what i would do is see if a family memeber, (your parents , brother or sister ect. ) would let u use their home and have him visit there so u and the baby arent alone. Or have him, in writing and get it signed if u rather do the $200 and he not to see his child, but regardless he's the father and should want a relationship with his kid. Some men or(boys) rather not grow up. good luck.

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