why did he leave us
Laura - posted on 10/07/2013
Aww Olivia, that's Horrible. Sometimes us women settle for less and then we begin to accept what we are used to. What you allow is what will be. So do not allow yourself to hold your breath for him anymore. Pull your kids out of the pits and succeed together. I'm pretty sure once he sees you are doing good for yourself and the kids he'll want to come back and leach off of you - don't let that happen! Twenty dollar kisses are all he might have to offer. Meaning, if there is something in it for him, he'll be there ASAP. Us Women are strong and we always finish ahead. Use best judgment and remember you are the Role Model for your babies. You don't want them going through this when they are older. Teach them to Keep Going and Move Forward, Not Backwards!!
Famous Finding Nemo Quote, "Just Keep Swimming". :)
Lynnette - posted on 10/06/2013
If he cared about you or the kids, he wouldn't have left in the first place. He wouldn't be dating another person either or lying to you. He is just stringing you along. Do yourself and the kids a favor, move on, shut him out of your life unless he plans to be a responsible father (i.e. pay child support, show up for birthdays, special occasions, support the kids, etc.). He's not worth it. It may hurt now, but that will end in time. But if you don't put your foot down and tell him no, once and for all, he will just keep hurting you.
The others are right, focus on you and the kids, do what's right for them. Find some family friendly activities for you and the kids, and a few things you can do in the evenings after a busy day to relax. See if there's a local group or club you can join and make a few new friends while you're at it.
Olivia - posted on 10/04/2013
Me and my ex just had a few words i was out for the evening with my sis and he heard about it. Asked me whom it was that i went out with i said its none of your business then he came to my house and start shouting me how dare i do this to him. I told him his sick and he said ill show you sick and called his gf and broke up with her over the phone. I find it very crazy of him.
Ana - posted on 10/04/2013
Get custody. Date other people for companionship not relationships and not sex. Makes it easier to resist ur ex when he comes around telling lies to you about loving u again.
Get some standards and stick to them.
A man will only do to you what u let him.
U would never want to marry a man that u cannot train. A woman can only train a man to treat her in the best way if that man loves her would do anything for her and respects her opinion.
Also my mom told me never marry a man that u would not follow anywhere on earth.
I married my husband beause if we lived in alaska in the wilderness he'd take care of me protect me and (mostly) listen to me. (He's a little afraid of me to, lol) but men have to be.
Love yourself. Focus on your kids snd new life.
Jodi - posted on 10/04/2013
He is with another woman and he tells you he loves you. Sorry, he is full of shit. The sooner you can see that his choice not to be with you means he can't care about you that much, the better it is for you. To be quite honest, the best thing you can do for your children is to move on and stop believing the crap he is feeding you.
Jodi - posted on 10/04/2013
File for custody and child support. Unfortunately, you can't force him to see his kids if he doesn't want to, but you can make sure he knows the door is open for him to have some time with his children and have a relationship with them.
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