Why do I feel so left out at times? I'm a mom of 6 adult male children

Erica - posted on 05/15/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My foot is broken so I have to get rides to go anywhere. Left foot, my car is a manual, has a clutch. Today my second grandson was born. One of my sons dropped by so I asked him to take me to the hospital where my son and his wife were had had their baby. He took me to do an errand I needed to do then we headed to the hospital. He said he had to leave at 7pm. On the way his dad called. He ran out of gas a short distance from the hospital but too far to walk. So we picked him up on the way to the hospital. My son did not know where his dad was describing that he ran out of gas. So I gave my son directions on how to get to his dad. Yes, it was a very difficult divorce. I received no alimony or child support. I put every penny I had on a home. We went to the hospital together. We were friendly and nice.
My son's mother in law was there with her daughter, my daughter in law, through the entire delivery. My son was there too. She said he did an amazing job. My son said it was his wife/ the baby's mom that did great. My daughter in law's mom shared the pictures and made sure we all had them on our phones. My son that gave me a ride left and the son I was getting a ride home with left. They had to get their dad's motorcycle picked up. My x's new wife and her daughter came to the hospital too. They left the hospital before we did with my x. The nurses came. We all left the room together. The son taking me and his girlfriend home were not back when their Dad went home with his new wife and step daughter. Sometimes even though my children and their wives and girlfriends don't have as much respect for their dad, I still feel left out. It is only temporary but it happens.

The other day my first son said that his wife was staying home with their baby now. I work, I have to. I love my work, well I hope to get a job at the same place I have been working. I've been home 8 weeks with the broken foot. This son works at his own business and goes to school. He does what we did for a living when I was married to their dad. I was jealous she could stay home with my grandson. Why am I jealous? There is nothing I would want more for them than for her to be able to stay home.

My sons visit often and usually do projects that I need done for each holiday. My sons and their wives come once a month for dinner. Why do I still feel left out sometimes? Who really has it better and is treated better than I am?

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Michelle - posted on 05/16/2015

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Find yourself a hobby or something. Your job of raising your children is over, now you can do things for yourself.

Erica - posted on 05/16/2015

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I know what you mean. It is not rational. I need to work on something internal.

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2015

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Your children are grown and have their own lives. I'm not understanding what you are being left out of.

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