Why do moms deny visitation?

Brittney - posted on 09/28/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My fiance has a one year old son. His ex denies him visitation and over the silliest things. If it is a holiday then she denies visitation. She always blames everyone else for it. If she wants the baby to go somewhere with her, she denies visits. And doesn't allow make up time. If her boyfriend says he doesn't want the visits to happen, she denies it. This has happened every holiday since the baby was born. She has said that she doesn't want the baby to think I am his mother and that's why my fiance can't see him. I explained that I don't want to take her place and she doesn't care. They went to court once, and the judge simply said "she has motherly instinct and that is why she denies visits." He didn't even ask why she denied it and he refused to hear evidence. So what I want to know is, why do custodial parents think they have the right to deny visitation? She actually told my fiance that him not dating her gave her automatic rights to deny visits. Why do custodial parents believe they are allowed to break court orders? If you are a custodal parent who has done this type of stuff I am honestly curious about this. Do people honestly believe that denying visitation over small things is okay? I understand if your kid says they were abused or your childs father is abusive. But what makes people think they have the right to tell a parent they can't see their child because they are jealous?? Sorry if I started ranting a little. But I am really curious..

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Dove - posted on 09/28/2014

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If he has visitation spelled out in the custody order and she violates that... he needs to get a lawyer and take it back to court. If the judge doesn't uphold the court order... the lawyer needs to request a judge that will.

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2014

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Then he needs to take her back to court for contempt. He needs to fight for his child, not let his ex control everything.
Hopefully he will get a different judge.

Brittney - posted on 09/28/2014

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I wasn't in the room. But when I asked what happened she and my fiance both told me thats what the judge said. The visitation is in writing. But she doesn't care.

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2014

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If I were your fiance I would be taking her back to court and getting visitation put in writing, that will stop her changing it all the time. He needs to get a lawyer to fight for what his rights are.
What she is doing is very wrong and the only person it is hurting in the long run is the child. The child isn't a possesion that she decides who gets to see him/her.
Were you around when the judge said the above? Somehow I don't see it, unless your fiance didn't really say what he was wanting visitation wise.

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