Why Do Moms Hate Porn?

John - posted on 09/25/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm almost 20 years old and a college student living at home, and my mom detests the fact that I use porn. She views it as immoral and vile, and shames me for using it. By that same token, she tries to get me to socialize and date real girls, and gets mad at me when I don't.

But my mom doesn't realize. Growing up she was the extremely attractive, popular girl that had no problem finding mates. I am the complete antithesis of that as a shy, socially awkward male who has never dated, kissed, lost my virginity, or had a girlfriend.

I believe that porn is all I have, and realistically is probably the best thing I am ever going to have in light of my circumstances. So when my mom shames me for it, it really hurts me deep down because I know I don't have the potential for anything greater.

Why can't my mom see that? I am not the popular person like she was. I cannot get real girls and I never will be able to. I'm the type of guy she probably would have dismissed as a loser in her younger days. Porn is all I have; why does she feel the need to shame me for that? Why can't she accept who I really am?

I would appreciate some motherly advice and insight into my mother's thinking. Thank you.

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Sarah - posted on 09/25/2015

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When I read this post and put it together with your other post about being attracted to teen girls I do think you have an issue. I encouraged you to reach out to your clergy for help, but if you feel this despondent about your potential to find a mate, you need more help than God. Find some help before you act out on your fantasy of dating a teenage girl. You need to work on your own self esteem before anyone will want to date you but to believe that you will never have anyone, ever is just plain sad. Porn is gross, it is unrealistic, objectifies women and is just gross. If you to watch porn, you are an adult, you can. Move out and do it in your own home.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2015

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First of all, you're an adult. If you don't agree with your mother, MOVE OUT.
Second, why are you on a site for MOTHERS?? You're obviously not one, and with your other posts, I'm ready to call troll

Bottom line. GET A LIFE. Get out of your mother's house, quit chasing girls WAY too young for you. You claim to be religious. Well, viewing pornography is in direct defiance to your religious teachings, so of course your mother (whose home you are residing in) has a problem with it. Like I said: You don't like her rules, get out of her house.

I think I agree with her. You need to get out, meet women YOUR age, not 5 years younger, when you are a 20 YO. You need to work on being self sufficient, and not relying on your parents. For cripes sake, my eldest has been on his own (by HIS choice) since he was 19.

Dove - posted on 09/25/2015

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Porn is nasty and it's not just moms that think that... and there are some moms that don't think that.

Personally I think your mother is far too involved in details of your personal life (likely because she is concerned for you though... and w/ good reason) and you would desperately benefit from some serious therapy.

Raye - posted on 09/25/2015

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I agree with Jodi, porn is not a solution to avoid social behavior and is not a realistic view of normal relationships.

As far as not having your own relationships... is that something you want? If so, then quit making excuses. You may get turned down by some, but there are people out there that would be interested in you. I've seen a fair share of butt-ugly guys (not saying that's you, cause I don't know what you look like) with pretty girls, and what they have that you don't is confidence. Don't be cocky, be confident. If you get turned down, then don't make it personal. There's someone else around the corner. You're not confident? Fake it 'til you make it. Once you start acting more confident, the more you'll start feeling confident. I'm sure there's a really great man inside that someone would be very lucky to have in their life.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2015

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It's not just mothers who don't approve of porn. The thing is, porn is NOT realistic.

If you believe porn is all you have and the best you are ever going to have, then seek counselling. Porn is not the solution to your life's happiness.

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