Why do schools allow boys and girls to swim together in gym class?

Margaret - posted on 01/28/2014 ( 16 moms have responded )

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at my daughters schools from 8th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have
it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable
and give immature boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause
distractions and goofing off among everyday? Not to mention young boys will be shirtless around young girls and I think that is inappropriate especially in a school setting

My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is
this just seems wrong especially at school

can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who aren't known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls?

I am surprised more parents are not complaining about having their kids be put in such revealing situations. I mean if kids were made to wear revealing clothes in the hallways there would be outrage but why is this OK?

this class also pretty much just gives students to look at all the other students in bathing suits. What is this a party or something? How is this appropriate for school? Why is the school providing an avenue for voyeurism?

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Astrid - posted on 01/30/2014

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This seems pretty ridiculous to me. I know I'm Swedish so nakedness doesn't bother anybody at all really, but this still seems a bit over the top.

You're daughter has said she doesn't care, and since there have been no other complaints, don't you think you are just overreacting a little?

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2014

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If you don't want your daughter mixing with boys then send her to an all girls school.
If she is going to a co-ed school then you expect them to have both sexes in the classes.
I don't see why parents would be outraged, I went to a co-ed school and always had classes and swimming with boys. There wasn't a problem at all. I think you are way over reacting. Have you ever taken her to the public pool or the beach? There are boys there as well.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/30/2014

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This is your eldest, isn't it, Margaret? And, you also must live in the US, and have little experience with broader cultures.

In some countries, nudity at any age is considered common. (think of the public beaches that allow topless or nude bathing). In some countries, the community baths were integrated. The US is one of the only countries I know of, other than those of a muslim faith, that makes the human body out to be a taboo subject.

And, kids aren't ALL monsters. Some (most, actually, are stellar young people) You need to get to know some other kids, hang around and see how interactions go.

Because, seriously, if anyone's going to be harassed in HS, its more likely to happen in the halls, or in a quiet class where the victim may be too embarrassed to speak out.

People of the opposite sex in a common area in bathing suits is in no way immoral, indecent, or improper.

Jodi - posted on 01/29/2014

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"from what I have seen and heard, boys are for some reason are not as uncomfortable in this kind of situation. This is a problem that seems to affect girls more."

LOL, "from what you've heard". You don't know much about boys, then, do you.

Your daughter has said she doesn't care, so what is the problem? Clearly her self esteem has not been affected.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2014

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LOL....you think the GIRLS feel uncomfortable? Do you have a boy? Believe me, they have more things to worry about than giving a girl a hard time. Do you want me to elaborate on how boys feel too?

Boys going shirtless, inappropriate? Clearly you have never taken your daughter to a beach or a swimming venue in her life. Or even a water park. Wrapping her in cotton wool is not going to help her.

Here's the thing. Of course they aren't wearing revealing clothes in the corridors. Because that is an inappropriate time and place. We need to teach our children about appropriate behaviour in appropriate places at appropriate times. Swimming pool = appropriate place to have fewer clothes on. It's not like they are all dressed up and about to have an orgy, but that's the way you are acting. If you don't like it, send her to a girl's only school.

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Betty - posted on 12/12/2014

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Yo, this bitch Margaret needs to calm down, and I've never heard of a school that has swimming in their PE Class.

Angela - posted on 01/31/2014

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Margaret, you need to remember that because swimming involves water - DEEP water - there are Health & Safety issues that the school is responsible for. This means the kids are more closely supervised than they would be in a Maths lesson.

Quite honestly, as I said in an earlier post, there are worse behavioural episodes, more opportunities for bullying etc .... in other school situations where they're less closely supervised. And, like I said before, the key place these are most likely to happen is in the Dining Hall/Cafeteria at lunch time.

A - posted on 01/29/2014

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So you are more ok with less clothing in a party situation than swim section in gym class?

Margaret - posted on 01/29/2014

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"Now, to the OP...Um, honey, it ain't the GIRLS who are uncomfortable about wearing bathing suits at that age, it's the boys. And I've yet to see any harassment, teasing, or "distracting" going on either...You do realize that PE is a structured activity where the instructors ARE PRESENT, right?
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I have a hard time believing this. Girls are usually the ones far more self conscious about their body.

"Seriously, if you are uncomfortable with your daughter being around young men, it doesn't only happen in PE class, it happens ALL DAY LONG. In every class. Every day! So, if you're that concerned about your daughter being unfairly exposed to 'crass' young men who 'may' (or may not) harass her...Enroll her in an all girls school.

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it is not like this is a Math class or English class. This is a class where they have to dress in revealing clothes around each other. This seems may be appropriate for some kind of party but it seems wrong for school.

Margaret - posted on 01/29/2014

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from what I have seen and heard, boys are for some reason are not as uncomfortable in this kind of situation. This is a problem that seems to affect girls more.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/29/2014

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And, actually, there's more opportunity for harassment, etc in the halls between classes than there is in the swimming pool with instructors present.

Sarah - posted on 01/29/2014

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Do you not go swimming in the summer at the pool or the beach? Does the school not have a swim team? I guess I don't see the issue. Maybe if we never went swimming anywhere else and did not have that exposure to water or water sports I might see it differently. For me this is much better then the beach or water park where supervision would be much less.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/29/2014

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Angela, to clarify, 8th -10th grade would be anywhere from 13-17 years old, depending on birthdays.

They're in middle school or secondary school, depending on the area.

Now, to the OP...Um, honey, it ain't the GIRLS who are uncomfortable about wearing bathing suits at that age, it's the boys. And I've yet to see any harassment, teasing, or "distracting" going on either...You do realize that PE is a structured activity where the instructors ARE PRESENT, right?

Were you planning on enrolling your daughter in the convent this year or next?

Seriously, if you are uncomfortable with your daughter being around young men, it doesn't only happen in PE class, it happens ALL DAY LONG. In every class. Every day! So, if you're that concerned about your daughter being unfairly exposed to 'crass' young men who 'may' (or may not) harass her...Enroll her in an all girls school.

Angela - posted on 01/29/2014

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I'm British and I don't know what age "8th - 10th grade" is. But if your daughter isn't concerned, I don't see why YOU should be.

When kids are going to behave badly in the school setting, tease and torment one another (particularly boys versus girls) it's going to be everywhere and not just in swimming. I believe dining halls/cafeterias are probably the worst spot - all sorts goes on when youngsters are eating their lunches.

Like the others suggest, perhaps you should have your daughter in a single-sex school? By the way, I went to a couple of single-sex schools as a young person. They're awful - the level of bitchiness and bullying was way beyond that in a mixed school.

Good luck.

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