Brittney - posted on 02/27/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
So I've noticed that a number of single mom's will treat the child as not of an object then a person. Such as, they'll deny the dad visits then say that they have sole physical custody so they own the child. I worked with a girl who won't let her kids see their father because he has fallen behind on support. She won't let him see the kids, but because he's behind on support he won't take her to court as he's afraid he'll get in trouble for being behind. She has her kids call her boyfriend "dad" even. My boyfriend's ex girlfriend has physical custody of their toddler. She has even said to him "I have final say in all visits." And "you won't date me then I don't have to let you see him". He however is doing someghi about it and thank god he's for plenty of evidence showing her denying visits and breaking court orders in other ways and she has a violent boyfriend she lives with. He doesn't hit the child. He hits Mon sometimes and is verbally abusive. I've also known other women who won't let the guy be around his kids because something he said or did that upset her. If my boyfriend and I ever have a child and for some reason split up, I couldn't imagine with holding visits because I was mad. Heck, I think as long as neither parent poses a threat then they should always have equal amounts of time with the child. I also wouldn't want child support from someone, if I had a child then I'd rather just provide for the child when they're with me and then have the father provide for the child when he has them. But I do understand the child support thing. I just see both sides to it. Why aren't more people open minded when it comes to visitation and child support?