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I don't know about anyone else but last time I was at the doctor she got me thinking about my family history; which in turn got me interested in putting together a family tree to not only satisfiy my curiousity but for my daughter as well. My husband never talks about his family so he's not help there but I've noticed with my side of the family that it's harder then it should be. My grandmother's side of the family changed the original spelling of their last name to make it more american and now I'm stuck with ZIP on her side were as I'm finding out that my grandfather's side of the family LOVES TO HOLD GRUDGES. I've contacted someone because their family tree popped up in EVERY search I did on my great grandfather only to get the response of: "Oh your so and so's granddaughter? Well we don't talk to that side of the family because of his marriage to so and so (my grandmother)." Ummm......okay.
So I made a promise to my daughter....I WILL NEVER EVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT TO HER....I will try to keep the peace between my husband and his side of the family the best I can so she does not get any of the back lash that I'm finding with my own family. AND I WILL NOT FUDGE any documentations dealing with my age, birthdate, etc. like my grandmother did....we actually think her father fudged her birth year when they migrated over here from europe on accident when he filled out a SS card the first time because we have two birth years for her......the one on her death certificate is the correct one according to my great aunt.
Sigh....why does researching family history have to be so hard if we have websites that have put all these records into one place for us? Oh did I mention the nightmare of the over seas records when it comes to my mom's side of the family.......those records all start in Ireland.