why does my 17 months old son keeps hitting his head on the floor and on the furniture.

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You can say to him "don't hit your head sweetheart, it will hurt" but what ever you do, don't console him when he does hurt himself. Say very gently something along the lines of, "I'm sorry you have hurt your head, but maybe next time you won't do that to yourself". I know he is very little and when he is hurt your first instinct will be to hug him and kiss him, but you really don't want him to get into the habit of hurting himself when things go wrong. Instead, try to give him the words to express himself. Let him know the words he can use such as "I feel angry", or "that is difficult" and reinforce his feelings so he knows he is being understood. "Yes sweetheart, I know you feel angry" "yes that is very difficult" so he will become familiar with the words and not only will he be able to use them rather than hurt himself, he will also know that his feelings are understood.
My little girl used to do it in protest. I would tell her, don't do that or it will hurt. She would still do it and it would hurt. I would not give in to her protest, nor would I hug her to stop her crying. I would let her know I understood why she was protesting but hitting her head was not going to make any difference. She soon out-grew it. My son also did it, he out-grew it even quicker than my daughter did. It's really a matter of teaching them better ways to deal with their frustrations.

Jan - posted on 07/16/2012

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Yes' that make a lot of sense he usually does it when playing with his toy's and something doesn't go the way he wants it to or if i try to stop him from doing something or taken something away from him.
Now my question is what do i do, because i'm concern that he might hurt himself

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Some more info would be helpful.. He may be doing it in protest. Does it happen after you have tried to stop him from doing something or taken something away from him, or is just out of blue random head banging?
Toddlers show their frustration in some rather puzzling ways due to their lack of words. It may be his way of showing you he is angry or upset about something. Some kids scream, some hold their breath, some hit their heads.

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