Why does my 8 yr old hate school?

User - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My 8 yr old hates school theres nothing you can do to motivate this child any ides?

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Jodi - posted on 08/08/2009

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Is there a particular reason maybe that she is hating school? Perhaps she doesn't like her teacher, maybe she is being bullied, maybe she doesn't have any real friends? Have you sat down and asked her about why she hates school?

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Rita - posted on 08/14/2009

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Amy, I was a teacher for 30 yrs and I loved to have parents come in to do things in class. That way they got to see how their child behave and we could talk over things informally. it gave the child, the parent and the teacher a chance to bond and work together as a team.

Portia Cristina - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Amy:

Why does my 8 yr old hate school?

My 8 yr old hates school theres nothing you can do to motivate this child any ides?


 



Well , it depends on the  facts and circumstances. There are so many valid reasons why a child may hate going to school.



Have  you checked on the environment he has in school? How about his classmates? Are they bullying him? Or maybe he feels bored in school?



I also have an eight year old daughter, but she loves going to school. In fact, she always wanted to go to class. She is studying in a progressive school. They learn by means of doing. They have a small class of 20 and she also have her cirlce of friends. If the class doesnt show any acceptance or invitation for her to grow the result would be, the child will not be encouraged to go to school.



Why not ask the child, How's your day in school? How do you feel?



It might help. Get involved in the child's school activities.



Best Regards,



Portia

Christina - posted on 08/10/2009

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i hated school too. when i said it was boring, what i was really saying was that i wasn't being challenged. i was tested for gifted and put into an accelerated program where i thrived and ended up loving school.

Sharon - posted on 08/08/2009

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I forgot to mention ... Sports help. They can't play sports unless they maintain good grades. If he is to young for school organized sports or if he isn't interesed, maybe an archery class?

Sharon - posted on 08/08/2009

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Aw that sucks Amy. My oldest was the same way. Drove me insane. He hated school and we had to fight with him every step of the way. He is just now pulling his head out of his butt and he's 14. I had my doubts we'd ever get here.



BUT in the interim he was FORBIDDEN to say he hated school or whine about going. He was going and there was no option. If he wanted to express how much he hated something he was going to have to write it down. But he has two siblings and they both loved school and I didn't want him prejudicing them to the higher grades.



Now my middle child is 10 and he thinks its funny to quote his friend who has a hard time in school and whine about not wanting to go back. I told him if he said it again, I'd junk his bike (they love their bikes - my most powerful threat!). he's kept his lips zipped since then.



What sucks is that he really does like school, but saying it over and over he will change his own mindset and poison his little sisters' mindset. :: sigh ::

User - posted on 08/08/2009

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I do i prayed about somuch last school year and all he cares about is hunting so Peewee told me when he met his teacher on Thurs night his teacher said so you like hunting Anthony said yea and the teacher said so do i its a man. So im hoping this is my prayer answered and his feeling of school will be different.

User - posted on 08/08/2009

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Maybe its because school just started bk,Amy. I really think it's a boy thing though.Cody hates it too. My advice is to keep involved....something I regret not doing.

PeeWee's encouragement will help too.Just keep on top of him and pray often!!

User - posted on 08/08/2009

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We have been through all of that hes hated it since pre-k. The school put him in a class that was a little more one on one the teacher told me that he did not need to be there that there was kids who really needed the help and that my son could do the work he just had no interest in it. I have taken things away from him not let him play but that doesnt bother him. The teachers say he is up and down all day. The counselor suggested he has ADHD took him to the Dr. they gave him straterra he cant have ritalin and meds like that because he has had 4 open heart surgeries. The counselor even thought maybe that may have something to do with it. I dont know its stressfull my 4 yr old just started pre-k and it worries me when she hears him whining about how much he hates school im just scared she may not want to go. Ive asked him why does he hate it all he says is its so boring mama but he is so SMART when you have a conversation with this child you would almost think you were talking to an adult hes that insightful when he went to prek 4 yrs ago his teacher used that exact word he has me baffled.

Jodi - posted on 08/08/2009

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Another thing, if your daughter can't or won't tell you why, make an appointment to see her teacher. Sometimes they can shed some light on issues like this. My son when through a phase where he hates school and it was only because he thought he was stupid and hopeless at Maths because he found it difficult. All it took was a talk to the teachers about it, a special ed teacher brought in to help him where he was struggling, and a little extra attention at home from me helping him more in explaining his homework and it was resolved.

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