Why does my 9 month old wake up 7 times a night and fight bed time?

Rhea - posted on 08/01/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is 9 months old and used to be a decent sleeper. Over the past 6 weeks things have gotten really bad. If I try to rock him to sleep he seems to get uncomfortable and fight it. But if I lay him down he screams, then wakes up completely and wants to play in his crib. His gums are not swollen and he has no teeth. I breastfeed and don't think he needs to eat more than once at night. I am more frustrated than I have ever been in my life. He wakes 3-7 times a night and I don't know what to do. Not sure I want him to cry it out, he gets hysterical and will not self-soothe. HELP!


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Rhea - posted on 08/03/2012




I have used tylenol and ibuprofen. He will get the 2-3 hours when I do this, but should I do this more often? I did consult my doctor and she has me using zantac twice a day in case it is reflux, but it doesn't seem to help at all. If it him odwenis all due to teething then when does it get better for him? This terrible sleeping is going on 2 months now. He seems to nap well. He just throws a fit sometimes while I rock him. But again, he won't fall alseep on his own if I just lay him down.

I have been nursing him at least 2 times a night lately. Now and then 3 times. But sometimes he only eats a little on one side and then falls asleep. We do bring him to bed when he is really upset or has gotten up a ton that night. Sometimes this works and he sleeps for a while,a bit restless. Other times he just sits up and wants to play. Yesterday he refused to lay down so I started our day at 4:15am.

Should I put him to bed earlier? I've heard this can help. He goes down 3-4 hours after his last nap right now, which is around 7:30-8:30. This week seems to be especially bad!

Dove - posted on 08/01/2012




Since you don't think he needs to nurse more than once a night... are you not nursing him more than that? Perhaps he disagrees with you and is telling you that. ;)

I was a 'night wimp' and until my son was two he nursed 1-5 times a night EVERY night except for a few random times. We gently night weaned at 2 though and for the past 2.5 years the ONLY times he wakes at night are for a bad dream (rare), if he's sick (rarer), or has to pee (even rarer).

I know many people don't like this method because they think it will set their kids up for a lifetime of bad sleep habits, but in my 11 years of parenting experience with 3 kids... that hasn't been the case at all.

Amy - posted on 08/01/2012




Just because you don't see anything doesn't mean he's not teething. My daughter was a great sleeper until her first tooth started coming in but we didn't know. I also breastfed so usually we ended up just cosleeping I also would feed her on demand because it was comfort for her. Have you tried giving Tylenol to see if it helps? With my daughter it at least would get me 2-3 hours of sleep to start the night with.

If you honestly don't think it's teething you should probably take him to the doctors since you say this is relatively new. At least you could rule out anything medical.

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