Why does my son hate me??

Angela - posted on 02/07/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 16 year old son. He is in 11th grade. Very smart, bright guy. He doesn't hang out with friends at all. All he does is play virtual video games online with buddies. He hardly speaks to me at all. I feel like I don't even know him anymore. When I try to sit down and talk to him he tells me he can't stand to be in the same roon with me. He told me I "poisined the dog against him and his sister too". He said I never feed him. He says I am the only thing wrong in his life. The things he says hurt so bad I cry. I lay awake at night wondering why he is like this. I miss my son and am afraid he is suffering from depression. However, when I hear him playing online he is laughing and being silly. I don't know what to do. I am actually afraid to do anything as I feel he is unstable. Any one else have similar problems?? I feel like I failed and life will never be the same again.

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Angela - posted on 02/07/2012

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You are right. I know the gaming is excessive. I guess part of my problem here is fear. I am afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing. I am afraid to make it get worse.



Maybe I am in need of a couselor myself too!



Thanks for the thoughts!

Angela - posted on 02/07/2012

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Thanks for the thoughts. I agree, if I could just get him to talk it would be so helpfull. And I will listen. All I want is for him to be happy...and hopefully we can get there soon. I am thinking about counseling also. It just worries me that I might make him back away more if I bring it up.



I won't give up, I will keep trying UNTIL...that is what I keep telling myself. Just keep trying UNTIL!

Dana - posted on 02/07/2012

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Well there's moody teenagers and then ones that are a bit extreme. Saying you and your daughter poisoned the dog against him is a bit extreme and not on par with reality.



Constant online video games are also not the best thing especially for someone who may be depressed.

If it were me, I would seek counseling and inform the counselor of the gaming.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/07/2012

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He is a moody teenager. Many go through this, where parents are nothing but a nuisance and an embarrassment. You can set aside some time to sit down and really talk with both of your kids. But avoid talking at them....talk to them and really hear what they have to say. Also, you can ask them how they would like things to change. There may be somethings that you can, and somethings that you won't. But having their input, and discussing changes that CAN be made, will make them feel more involved and can possibly open the doors of communication.



If after that, you have real concerns about him, you can always have him speak to a counselor.

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