Why does my son have his girlfriend step on him when no one is around?

Sonja - posted on 02/11/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 15 year old son that has been doing some really strange things lately. I understand at his age his hormones are raging inside him but I'm getting very concerned. About a week ago I walked up to his room and his door was cracked open. I respect his privacy but couldn't help for seeing what he was doing with his girlfriend. He was laying on his back in the floor with his sweat pants and underwear pulled down to his ankles and she was stepping on his genitals with high heels! I watched for about 1 minute to see if they were just being teenagers trying something stupid/silly like a challenge of some sort, but after watching it was definitely sexual.

She was stepping on him with about a 3-4 inch pair of heels that are sharp stilettos style, but she wasn't wearing them when she came to visit or when she left. He had her stepping on his penis and testicles, just walking all over them with her full weight!

I decided to knock on the door and interrupt, for fear of him being hurt. They scrambled as you can imagine, she steps down off him and quickly sit on the desk chair and throws her heels under a blanket that was on the floor, he pulled up his clothes and jumps up and walks to the door to let me in. He was out of breath, I said I'm collecting laundry do you have anything that needs washed? He said no, I aid what about the blanket in the floor, and he quickly responds no its fine I just dropped it there.

Last night I came home from work early to find that they were at it again. This time in the living room next to the stairs, she was using the handrail to keep her balance as she stepped on his genitals with a different pair of high heels this time. I didn't spy, I didn't invade his privacy, I unlocked the door and opened it as saw them at it again.. I turned my back and yelled through the door for him to come help me bring in groceries. I could hear her running on the hard wood floors out of the room and he came right to the door. As I walked through the living room there was semen on the floor where she was stepping on him. I must have interrupted as he climaxed, unless she keeps stepping on him after he does.

A couple days ago I put on some of my high heels and wore them around him in the house just to watch his body language and see his reaction. He couldn't stop looking at my shoes as I walked passed him, and he asked several times why are you wearing shoes in the house. I told him they are new and I'm just trying to break them in. He was uncomfortable as far as I could tell, or maybe turned on, not sure. Is it the shoes he is attracted to, or is he into pain, foot fetish?

What should I do? Should I confront him? Is he at risk of being injured? Could she cause him to be sterile? I am very worried...

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Raye - posted on 02/11/2016

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You should not knowingly let your son engage in sexual acts with other people at his age. If he masturbates, that's fine as long as he's private about it. If he uses shoes while he masturbates, then that's up to him. You should NOT allow the girlfriend in the house with him when you're not there, and you should not let them alone together in his room unless the door is wide open and you are checking on them. Be a parent.

And his shoe fetish will be whatever it will be, and that's none of your concern unless he decides to talk to you about it, or you decide to talk to him directly about it. IF you talk about it, only point out the potential danger to his internal and external organs from engaging in those activities. And maybe mention that not all women will be into that sort of thing. You shouldn't make him feel "bad" or "wrong" for liking something a little different. But he should understand that it is different and that there is potential for injury.

Dove - posted on 02/11/2016

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Eh... at least the trolls are putting good effort into their stories now...

If you are legit... who the hell allows their 15 year old privacy w/ a girlfriend in their home? Major lack of parenting and like your son has been taught zero respect and boundaries. Time to step up and get both of you some help.

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Sarah - posted on 11/27/2017

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James, this thread is over a year old..but I'd love to know where you got the statistic of 95% of pregnancies is due to over controlling parents? That's absurd. I am a school nurse and i deal with pregnant teens every single day; you are so wrong......it's the kids left unattended, unsupervised and with too much free time. They get bored. Bored teens experiment with drugs, sex and stealing. I know this firsthand. So quote your research please.
At 15 my kids are not even allowed to date; even if they had the time. And when they do date? No overnight guests, no guests when I am not home and certainly no closed bedroom doors. Preventing pregnancy in teens comes from years of supervision and education and communication.

James - posted on 11/26/2017

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Raye Ramsey, you should never try to make it so that your child is not allowed to be alone with the person who they are dating expecaly at age 15 because it can make him or her secretly meet up with their girlfriend/boyfriend. Remember 95% of teen pregnancy is from over controlling parents saying that they can't be with their girlfriend/boyfriend

James - posted on 11/26/2017

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Well first off you shouldn't try to confront him about it because it will make him very embarrassed and very very self conscious about it. I would say that you shouldn't let him have his girlfriend over but that would do you no good. Just sitting down with the two of them and say that it's okay to experiment with different things but they should keep it private in his room. At his age I would have loved to have a girlfriend who would do that. Also leave a small gift of condoms for them in a drawer with out any note as a note would also cause a problem. I don't know if she is his first girlfriend or not but just don't interfere because if you do it could cause them to break up and end up with him blaming you for the break up and make it so that he feels like no woman or girl would ever accept what he is into. As it stands I too like what he likes and I find it very hard to be open with other women about it because my parents both tried anything they could to get me to stop. including telling me that it was illigal. So don't try to change him and don't try to make it so that he can't see his girlfriend because if you do that he will figure out a way to see her in private.. and also to the question that is the title of this Post the reason why he would let her do that when no one is around is because he enjoys it and he can't feel comfortable doing that with other people around because it's something that many women and people in general think it is wrong or gross. But the best and only thing you can do is to accept it and let them do it. But if you know she is over and you are not home you should call and let him know that you are on your way home so that they can Finnish up before you get home so he is not out of breath and he can clean up

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