Why have home birthday parties become so uncommon?

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Ev - posted on 04/05/2014

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The quote from Tanya: ""everyone is trying to outdo each other and have the best birthday parties" also reads into the fact that everyone tries to outdo each other part. It makes the birthday party more like a contest than what its about. People start expecting to spend more money on this theme or venue over another person's idea for a birthday party. It becomes about who can do the best, have the most people and even spend the most money. This trickles down to our children who then brag when they get that theme they want for their birthday party and then there is always those few kids whose parents can not afford to do this. Those kids get picked on because their families can not have that type of party for them. BIRTHDAYS are a celebration not a contest to see who can do better than whom. Its about the kid or even the adult here. Celebrations are not meant to be done to outdo the rest of the world. That is what bothers me about all these themed birthday parties. So, my advice is to do it if you can afford to but do not do so in the event of outdoing so and so because of this or that reason. Honestly, the kids are not going to remember a lot of that, the presents, who got them those presents and sometimes who came. I know there will be pictures to remind them but still think about it, the kids are going to remember better if it was done out of love and more intimately than if a huge group of people showed up to a bounce place rather than the house for a theme there.

Sapphir3 - posted on 04/05/2014

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I'm not going to be having a party for my daughter when she turns 4 this October, I'm going to do a home bday party for her 5th, because the pros of doing a home party is that there's not expensive hiring costs, you can decorate the night before and it's all done, you can get all the food done and drinks ready and not have to worry about carting food around in cars, you can relax knowing that you can take all night cleaning up whereas halls usually have to be cleaned up within 2 hrs after the party is over and you are usually so fatigued with all the setting up and "festivities" that you want to just go to sleep, you don't have to worry about uninvited guests showing up like they would at public venues stating "what a coincidence...", you can have better toilet paper compared to the basic toilet paper etc they provide, you can relax - that's the joys of having a home party ;)

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2014

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Gena, when I take the kids bowling, it is only a smaller group of friends. I don't let them invite all their class or anything. The packages there include food and games. I supply goodie bags, etc. I also supply the cake. But I don't do balloons generally. Not these days.

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2014

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I work and we run a business. It is REALLY hard to do a party at home, make the food (and if you buy it all ready made it is really expensive), setting up, clean up after, entertain and so on. I have occasionally had at home parties, but to be honest, it is worth the money just to take them bowling or to the park for a sausage sizzle, or lasertag or something like that. And the cost difference is negligible.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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Venues have certainly been more often than not in the places that I have lived. People just don't want the mess at the house or the prep. Venues tend to be the same price, it is organized for you, and no clean up. It is just convenient if you can afford it. But then again, we end up spending about the same amount of money for throwing a party at our house as we do at a venue. I know I said it earlier, just making it a bit more clear. So yeah, I agree I have seen an increase of location parties over home parties.

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Josie - posted on 08/21/2014

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from a kids perspective:

i think that there are all these knew fun places, games, themes and fun stuff that you just can't do at home and everyone is trying to have a party that will be the one that everyone talks about or that everyone will be inspired by

Angela - posted on 04/05/2014

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Quote (from Tanya)

"everyone is trying to outdo each other and have the best birthday parties"

Yes, that's an important point not only children but also parents are trying to outdo others!

A friend of mine swore by "McDonalds Birthday parties". I asked her exactly what happened ... She said everyone met in McDonalds, the kids ordered a burger, cheeseburger or whatever from the McDonalds menu, the birthday boy or girl was allowed to go through to the kitchen a little later on to put together his/her own burger (so they got an extra one) - and sometimes the birthday child could take a friend through to the kitchen to make a burger too!

Then Ronald McDonald came and gave all the kids a colouring book & crayons etc ... At the end there would be a birthday cake - you could either bring your own along or get one from McDonalds. Total price was the same as however many burgers you ordered for the guests (plus price of birthday cake if you got one from them). The "extras" (e.g. paper party hats, making one's own burger in the kitchen, Ronald McDonald & colouring books & crayons etc ....) were free.

I personally prefer a "party" to be something where you get more than a hamburger and a slice of birthday cake. When you hold a child's party at home, you offer more on the buffet than your guests are going to get at a McDonald's party.

Michelle - posted on 04/04/2014

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I have been doing the parties at home recently. I work full time but if we have a party at home the kids can invite more people than if we had it at a venue. I just make sure I plan the food and make sure it's not going to take me too long to make.
I also get the kids to help out and they love it. The older ones are happy to just have their friends around, I don't need to plan games and things. The youngest one just had her 4th birthday and we ended up only playing 1 game, they were too busy playing with her presents to worry about being entertained.

Gena - posted on 04/04/2014

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What kind of venues are places you invite all the friends to?Is going bowling with friends considered a venue? Or is it a place that you "rent" for a couple of hours?I am just asking because i watched an interesting program about extreme cheapskates and the one woman let her 10yr old have his birthday party at the retirement home,so that was the venue.But she had to buy cake,balloons etc,so i was just thinking why not just do the party at home..i didnt understand the whole logic about a venue.

Tanya - posted on 04/03/2014

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I agree the price of having and your house and at a venue cost the same. So why bother doing it at your house and having to clean for an hour to an hour a half afterwards.

Also, everyone is trying to outdo each other and have the best birthday parties. Anyways, that's what it is in my case.

Ev - posted on 04/02/2014

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When my kids were growing up and we had finally divorced, I had a birthday party at home. I made the cake, I selected a few small gifts and invited just family for cake, ice cream and to get together. I did not spend what people would spend on venues. I had my folks, myself, my grandmother (when alive), my sister and niece, a family friend that the kids adoringly call uncle, and sometimes a friend or two. It did not cost a whole lot. Sometimes I did go out and buy a cake if I had the money to do so. But I actually did not spend over $50 for the whole thing unless the gifts were more. I do not know how often kids remember the venues anyway. Its the people that they remember more being there for their birthday than anything. Side note: My daughter's 16th birthday party was just family and she loved it. Her grandfather danced with her to an oldies song "16 Candles" And "Your 16". I do think that home parties are cheaper in the long run if you keep it simple.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/02/2014

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My apologies for the flag, was my mistake. ;-)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/02/2014

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Well, I would say that the commonality of things such as this depends on the area, and the family, and for you to make a blanket assumption based on your personal experience is a little narrow, because in my area, home parties are the thing to do, not spend excessive amounts on 'other venues' or caterers and crap like that.

Gena - posted on 04/02/2014

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We always have home parties.Its actualy not common in Switzerland to have birthday parties at venues. I like having our parties at home.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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Because it is more work and just as much money to have it at a venue as at home. My kids birthdays are in April and May, and they will both be at home though.

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