Why is it that the father of our children never seem to have the same priorities as we do, he spends little time nurturing and caring for his children, then comes home drunk, and late, gives them a horsie ride and comes out looking like a hero. Sometimes I feel like i'm the only adult in this relationship, does this happen to everyone or does my life just suck?


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Jenni - posted on 04/24/2012




Thanks girls, is good to know I'm not alone, I have warned him that if this behaviour continues then he will be on his own but he doesn't seem to want to listen or maybe he doesn't care.

Krista - posted on 04/20/2012




This doesn't happen to everyone, but it does happen to a lot of women, sadly.

The thing is, kids figure stuff out. When they're younger, yes, they love Daddy for giving them a horsie ride and for being "fun", while Mommy gets the thankless tasks of actually raising them and making sure that they're healthy and well-cared-for.

But kids get older, and some kids are very observant. And they will figure out, sooner or later, that Mom is the one who's always been there for them. Some figure out out earlier than others, but the vast majority of them DO figure it out eventually.

So let them have this time where they still think their dad is great. It won't last long, if he keeps this crap up.

And in the meantime, you might want to tell your husband that if he doesn't start acting like an actual parent, that he'll soon have a pretty damn hard fall off of that pedestal, once the kids see him for who he really is.

Michelle - posted on 04/20/2012




It happened with my first husband (father of my oldest 2) but the father of #3 is wonderful with all 3 children.

Not all men are like that but the good ones seem to be few and far between.

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