Why is my 11 year old daughter so shy? And how to break her out of it?

Janee - posted on 08/08/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello👋👋 my name is Janee and I have a 11 year old daughter that is extremely shy. When there is other children around she doesn't even want to talk to them. It's so many kids that live on our street that she knows and she doesn't even want to go outside!! It's summer time! When I was her age I stayed outside I hated when it was time to come In. When people try to talk to her rather she knows them or not she look to me as if she's scared to say something back..if they say hello she'll put her head down and speak halfway back.. She's really nice and so smart. I noticed that she let other kids be mean to her or tell her what to do and I get on about that .. I really need to know if I should try to change her...even though I've already tried. Should I stop trying and just let her be that way? It really drives me crazy and makes me mad sometime to be honest... Please help!

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Janee - posted on 08/15/2014

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Thank you so much for your advise... I really appreciate it..sometimes I feel like it may be my fault because I wasn't the best parent in the world beings tho I had her at 16 years old I use to yell a lot at her when she got on my nerves but the older I had got the more patients I have gained. This is why I think I might be a reason for why she acts the way she does. I really feel bad and have regrets on how I raised her. Wish I have done things differently. I use to party a lot and always would get my mom to watch her because I wanted to run the streets. I wonder if it's my fault.

Janee - posted on 08/15/2014

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Thank you so much for your advise... I really appreciate it..sometimes I feel like it may be my fault because I wasn't the best parent in the world beings tho I had her at 16 years old I use to yell a lot at her when she got on my nerves but the older I had got the more patients I have gained. This is why I think I might be a reason for why she acts the way she does. I really feel bad and have regrets on how I raised her. Wish I have done things differently. I use to party a lot and always would get my mom to watch her because I wanted to run the streets. I wonder if it's my fault.

Dove - posted on 08/08/2014

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You can not change who your child is and you should not try as that will only drive a wedge between the two of you. What you CAN do is attempt to give her coping skills... by role playing social situations and enlisting the help of a good child counselor.

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