why is my 7 year old getting so angry
Aquaviya - posted on 09/19/2013
My daughter since she was 6 has always had this anger inside of her whenever she didn't get her way. Every confrontation is neva her fault. Well now that she's 7 its gotten worst. Everyone hates her, we don't love her, she hates us, its not her fault, shes gonna tell my mom and her father on me, and she wish she was dead. Shes even asked me for a knife. Hearing that cut me real deep to hear that come out of a 7 yr. old mouth whos also my daughter. I just dont know what to do.
Jodie - posted on 10/04/2010
hmmm try reading between the lines.... somethings making her/him upset, and they are directing it at you.... open up the channels of discussion gently... at a time when they are not venting their anger, and tell them how sad you feel that lately they seem to be upset alot and blaming you for it. Ask them what it is that youve done wrong and apologise and try and clear out your end of the issue ( if there is anything really that you may have done to tick them off) THen tell them you love them and wanna help them... and see if you can spend some quality one on one time with them...to identify the source of the problem. these changes in mood may be related to growing up, to life circumstances, or friendships or comments from other kids or even dangerous stuff like child abuse etc... so be very careful and tread calmly, lovingly and supportively and Im sure the underlying issues will be come obvious. I would also pray and ask for some divine guidance... kids can be so difficult to read sometimes especially when our own lives are sooooooooo busy and we often put off the important in preference to the urgent.. These sorts of things are way more important than we realise and kids acting up is a real alarm bell. I wish you all the best with your situation
Tisha - posted on 10/04/2010
My 8 year old daughter went through this. She never said it was MY fault but she always blamed it on someone else. She NEVER took responsibility for her own actions. I would ask her to explain to me why she felt it was the other person's fault, then I would tell her that I understood why she felt that way but she needed to take responsibilty for her actions and then explain to her why. She rarely does it anymore.
Elizabeth - posted on 10/04/2010
Have you tried talking about it to her/him? Or they may have picked up the blaming thing from someone somewhere. I have always enforced that their actions are there fault. How they handle a situation is all on them. But I always try to show them ways to control their anger and not to take it out on others or blame others unnecessarily. When they say it is someone else's fault I ask them to explain how it is it their fault. That's when I usually find out that they just lost their temper or that their is really something going on. Hope that helps.
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