Why is my 8 month old not sleeping through the night?? Please help!!!

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Emily - posted on 03/07/2009

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You probably shouldnt listen to Kristy. If you are rocking and soothing your baby, then you are doing the right thing. It is horrible to let a child that young cry it out. By letting them cry it out, you are not teaching him to soothe himself back to sleep. You are teaching him that you have abandoned him, and you are not going to meet his needs. And then he passes out form exhaustion from crying so long. CIO can lead to emotional, social, and behavioral issues.
If your baby is getting up to eat during the night, try watering down his/her formula until he/she is just getting water. Then he'll get used to not eating during the night. If you are breastfeeding, then it is completely normal that he is waking to nurse. If he wakes up and doesnt want to eat, he might be teething, and you can try motrin or teething tablets. He could also be going through sleep regression if this is a new occurrence.

But please please dont listen to the people who will tell you to let him cio. That's bad mothering.

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Sara - posted on 12/05/2015

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Definitely it is coilc and gas. My LO was the same sleepless one and nothing was working until I started babies magic tea. This is amazing formula that soothed my extremely fussy baby.

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Quoting Emily:

My son has been sleeping through the night since he was 4 months old. He is 14 months now, and still sleeps 13 hours a night without waking. I have never used CIO, only comforted him when he needed me. He is able to trust me completely. I'm his mother, and I'm there for him. CIO does NOT make a child learn to self soothe. You can tell yourself that all you want, because you feel guilty. It teaches your child that you have essentially abandoned him in his time of need, and he will eventually pass out from exhaustion, because he has been screaming for his mother who is ignoring him in the next room. So if you used cio on your son, congratulations. Glad you made your poor baby feel that way.
CIO leads to irreversible social, behavioral and emotional problems. It is not recommended by the AAP. It's a horrible way to parent.
If you choose to have a baby, you have to take care of it. Who would of thought? Am i right?


You are right!!  My son screamed his head off for 40 minutes the first night; every ten minutes I told him I loved him but it was time for bed.  The second night he cried for 20 minutes, same story; by the third night he went to sleep no cying at all. I still hugged him and kissed him everynight and do to this day.  But at 8 months healthy habits need to begin to develop.  I don't think I am alone on this.  Many babies will expect a rocking or a bottle until they are 2 or 3 years. Just look around this site.  What then?  Just get up and go in and rock them three times a night?  Get real.  The AAP is not against crying it out.  They say children need 12-13 hours of sleep at night at this age.  Make sure they get it.  They don't care if you rock them for 13 hours or if they cry prior to sleeping.  Just wait until that 14 month old is four and is walking all over you.  It isn't just about showing a child love alone.  It is about teaching them healthy habits that will help them become functioning individuals.  My child is loved and very loving, extremely socal and very emotionally balanced (although I don't know how that can be apparently). In fact, so are all the children I know that learned to sleep alone in the first year.  But I do know a few that are still not sleeping throught the night at 2 and are having behavioral problems in daycare fom lack of sleep (I suspect).  I would suggest reading Healthy Sleep habits, happy child. Or just ask you pediatrician.

Guinevere - posted on 03/07/2009

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My 7th month old is going through similar situation. However, the baby's sleep cycle is still 90 minutes long. So in essence they wake up every 90 minutes and usually returns to sleep. Which is why doctor's recommend letting them fall back to sleep on their own. Do what is comfortable for you as babies learn and store information while asleep. The crying is psychologically painful for mom but is just the beginning of Stage 1 sleep for babies.

Guinevere - posted on 03/07/2009

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My 7th month old is going through similar situation. However, the baby's sleep cycle is still 90 minutes long. So in essence they wake up every 90 minutes and usually returns to sleep. Which is why doctor's recommend letting them fall back to sleep on their own. Do what is comfortable for you as babies learn and store information while asleep. The crying is psychologically painful for mom but is just the beginning of Stage 1 sleep for babies.

Emily - posted on 03/07/2009

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My son has been sleeping through the night since he was 4 months old. He is 14 months now, and still sleeps 13 hours a night without waking. I have never used CIO, only comforted him when he needed me. He is able to trust me completely. I'm his mother, and I'm there for him. CIO does NOT make a child learn to self soothe. You can tell yourself that all you want, because you feel guilty. It teaches your child that you have essentially abandoned him in his time of need, and he will eventually pass out from exhaustion, because he has been screaming for his mother who is ignoring him in the next room. So if you used cio on your son, congratulations. Glad you made your poor baby feel that way.
CIO leads to irreversible social, behavioral and emotional problems. It is not recommended by the AAP. It's a horrible way to parent.
If you choose to have a baby, you have to take care of it. Who would of thought? Am i right?

Rochelle - posted on 03/07/2009

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I found limiting their day time nap and letting them play alot through the afternoon, a good feed and a nice warm bath, gets them to sleep, (the longer their afternoon nap the less sleep is needed at night). Do what you are comfortable with, sleeping in the next room is not abandonment, you can hear your child and you can get to them, and that is what is important. The longer they sleep next to you the more they expect it! At six months old my first son was in his own room, and the afternoon activities stimulated his mind and body enough for him to sleep through the night. I stopped "snacking" bottles and gave him set times for bottles and food, there is nothing wrong with routine from an early age.

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Emily is right, if you expect your child go to sleep by themselves in a nice warm crib with a full tummy in a room right next to you, you are abandoning your child.  Studies show that kids need to learn to soothe themselves to sleep or poor sleeping patterns persist into childhood.  Like toddlers getting out of bed and refusing to sleep alone.  It gets worse as they get older.  I have a perfectly healthy well rounded son who sleeps 12 hours a night and has since he was four months old.  I did let him sort of "cry it out".  I would reassure him that I was there, but I had to stop rocking him because he would awaken every hour or so for more rocking.  He will likely be better off if he learns to sleep a full night instead of keeping himself awake, and you awake.  But I don't know, it is just my advice.

Heather - posted on 03/07/2009

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There are lots of possible reasons but if your baby was sleeping through the night and is now waking up you may be at the seperation anxiety stage. This usually happens around 7 to 9 months old and doesn't really last too long. The worst thing you can do is rush in and pick baby up right away. If the crying escalates instead of subsides you should go in and let your baby know you are there but don't pick your little one up. A back rub might help but you need to let your little one learn to go back to sleep without you picking up or rocking - if you are like me and really value your sleep :) It really wont last long - it just feels like it when you are tired.

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Did he/she used to sleep through the night?  Or is this a bad habit that is persisted from early on?  What do you do when he/she cries?  If you go and pick them up, soothe them or rock them to sleep then you are likley to be the reason.  A child needs to know how to soothe themselves to sleep in a healthy manner.  Like anyone else a child has normal sleep cycles.  When a child is awakened at night usually they will go back to sleep on their own.  but if you are usually there to put them to sleep they will want you to do that again.  They are smart enough to do what it takes to get what they want.  Unless you stop putting them to sleep by rocking, nursing or bottle.  If this is not the case and this is a new development than likely something else is going on like they are teeething,  the air is too dry or they are a bit sick.  But kids pick up a bad habit very quickly.  So if you start soothing them when they're sick in the middle of the night you will likely have to rebreak that habit when they are once again well.  good luck!

Ashley - posted on 03/07/2009

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if your child was sleepiong through the night but recently stopped it may be due to teething , a growth spurt, or seperation anxiety. if your child has never slept through the night it may be normal, there are many things that may help for both of you to get more sleep, if it's teething try orajel, or if your child seems to be in a lot of teething pain infant tylenol works well, if it's a growth sprut try to feed more during the day but they still may wake up to eat until they sprut is over, if your child has never slept through the night it may be that they digest food very quickly, are your breastfeeding ? becasue many breast fed babies sleep through the night much later, doctor say that bu this age most children dont need to eat during the ngiht so you can try weanign off the nighttime feeding but offering less in the middle of the night, then they shoudl make up for the differnce during the day, if yoru child just seems to be waking up more, you cna try a couple things to help them to learn to self soothe back to sleep, have a good ngihttiem routine, maybe a story, and bath, a bedtiem snack, some cuddles, then when babyis drowsy but still awake lay baby down in there crib to fall asleep , when baby wakes in the night dont rush in right away but if you definatly knwo after a moment that they wont be going back to sleep them do go in reassure that everythign is ok, but try not to pick the baby up, anythign you try will probably take a few night to work so be paient, and dont worry you'l both eventually get a good ngiht sleep

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Oh goodness, if you are like me and my husband, we like to snuggle and NOT let them cry themselves to sleep...you will have them waking for your comfort until they are old enough to WANT to sleep by themselves. If you want your sleep and want a baby to sleep you will unfortunately let them cry for a time until they fall to sleep or back to sleep.

Brooke - posted on 03/07/2009

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the doctors say that you shuldnt give them a bubble bath but i bought the night time bubble bath for my daughter when she was 8 moths old and it helped put her to sleep we also put on some soft music and laid with her for a while, they also say that if you put them in their infant carseats turn on the dryer and put them on top the vibration helps to put them to sleep also

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