Why is my baby refusing to sleep in his crib?

User - posted on 01/20/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My 11mth and half son recently does not like napping or sleeping at night in his crib. I used to lay him down with his bottle and he would fall right to sleep.. now i lay him down and as soon as i walk towards the door he crys and crys and crys.. And i also noticed he is losing intrest in his bottle. . any suggestions? i wasent planning on taking the bottle away until he turned 1 in two weeks...

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Jessica - posted on 01/20/2012

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You have a couple of options, and you need to do what is best for you... he is more than likely simply going through a phase. You can sit with him in his room until he goes to sleep (for me that didn't work because they wouldn't sleep knowing I was in the room). Or you can let him cry it out. Believe me, it's tough, but it's tougher on you than on the baby. Once he realizes that you aren't coming back in the room and he isn't going to get his way of having you come back to him again (and this time may be days, or even weeks), he will settle himself and go to sleep.



You will hear many people say it isn't good for a child to cry it out, but with both my boys we did it, as well as putting them in the crib from day one, and both are well rounded children who do not fight me in going to bed at night, without bottle.



Good luck!

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Alexandra - posted on 01/21/2012

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he is very curious and probably wants to play some more. he might be teething too. Talk to the pediatrician and see what they suggest.

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My son was always rocked to sleep with a bottle, never put in bed with a bottle though, because I had once read that laying flat in bed while drinking could cause fluid to go behind the ears, thus causing an ear infection. However, I doubt this is the issue here.

When my son was almost 2, he had gotten sick and wanted to sleep in my bed, well he ended up there for months because he too would cry & cry if we put him in his crib. We finally got him a twin bed, and it still took months to get him out of my bed. Gradually he started taking naps in his bed & eventually he started sleeping in it at night too. Once in a while he still crawls in bed with me, but he really loves his bed now.

Evelyn - posted on 01/21/2012

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First of all, putting him to bed with a bottle is a no-no. It is not good for his teeth.



Secondly, he might need a little reassurance that all is well. Do you have a rocker or a glider? If not, rock him in your arms while you feed him his bottle, preferably warm milk, at bedtime. While rocking him, talk to him, sing to him, pat him on his back...whatever calms him down.



Could he possibly be a little hungry before bedtime? About 1/2 hour before bedtime, give him a little cereal or fruit, or a baby toast.



If when you do put him in his crib, and he awakens, start the rocking procedure over again. After several nights, hopefullly he will look forward to this time with Mama and easily go off to dream land.



Lots of luck,

Nanny

Tiffani - posted on 01/21/2012

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We introduced Gert (a giraffe head/blanket body) and our kids both had that to go to sleep w/ or play with until they went to sleep....it does sound like he doesn't want to have you out of his sight...we tried the method, where you, lol, wean yourself off, because i couldn't just leave either of ours cry. so we would go back in to reassure them that we were still here, just right down stairs, they were ok, and we loved them....yeah....it was like we were resetting it each time b/c they knw we were coming back!! So, my husband said we needed to do something else b/c that wasn't working! So, we decided that we would go through our normal routine, make sure they knew that we loved them, kisses and tell them we are right downstairs and it's time to go night-night. We'd see them in the morning...i took the monitor and kept it right beside so we could see how long it was taking and if this seemed like it worked. And both of ours would let me rock for a while, but then they were ready for a little space it seemed. And....we found w/ both, that they both cried the first night for about 45 min, but the next couple of nights, the time almost cut in half each night! They put themselves to sleep!!



Now, my sister rocked her son to sleep everynight - not sure how long, but her daughter from day 1, wanted her own space and slept through the night from the time she came home!!



looking back, i remember feeling bad, at first, but the first couple of nights are the worst if you decide to try that method!! :) Good luck!

Shari - posted on 01/21/2012

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When my oldest son was about this age he decided he did not like napping or sleeping in the crib either. However he did not fight going to sleep but only in his crib so we purchased a toddler bed and let him go to sleep in that. He felt more independent that way. Also within a couple of weeks he would put himself down for a nap. He would grab his bottle and go lay down and when I would go check he would be fast asleep. Now my son is almost 17 and I was very comfortable that if he woke up and got out of the bed he would not hurt himself and I still kept the monitor on in his room just on a higher shelf so that he could not reach it. Good luck I know these transitions are tough.

Stcmom11 - posted on 01/20/2012

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buy something new for his crib to make him want to spend time in it. Has anyone left or gone out of his life?

User - posted on 01/20/2012

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Thanks Jessica, I believe it is a phase he is going through.. Because as soon as i lay him down and sees me walk away he immediatly gets up and starts crying. He dosent want to be away from me. It hurts my heart to hear him cry but I think thats what will work better. i dont want him to get used to me going back for him every time he does that. I let my daughter cry when she was his age and eventually she got used to it. But this time around it just seems harder. But then again it has been 5years since she was a baby lol.. Thank you for the advice

Christine - posted on 01/20/2012

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i think you just have to put ur baby in the crib and stay with them till they fall asleep. or maybe give them a toy in the crib to lay with

User - posted on 01/20/2012

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I agree. Since im a stay at home mom im always with him. I also agree on starting to help him detach from the bottle. I would love him to stop using the bottle completly soon.

Sherri - posted on 01/20/2012

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Sounds like a phase where he doesn't want to be away from you. However, it sounds like it is an awesome time to get rid of the bottle if he isn't interested in it anyways.

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