why is my own bio child calling me my first name??

Britt - posted on 07/24/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




no matter what my children know im "mommy," and here lately they have been calling me some nasty names, coming back from their BDs house. They said their BDs gf calls me nasty names alot, could this behaviour rub off on to the kids?
Im at a loss here on what to do. Its really sad i know the frustration of going house to house , but please this man is simply evil of all evil. He would love nothing more than to hear this is hurting me, so talking to the ex boyf isn't going to work. My own child told me that Cindy -BDs gf is calling me "fatter than her," etc...
i ve been loggin down this in a new notebook i ve started with what my own birth children are calling me

my own b.c.(bio child ) knows so much for his age i feel just awful. Its really sad, my 2 bio's need help!! :(


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JuLeah - posted on 07/24/2011




What kind of parenting plan do you have? What is legally down on record as far as custody/visitation goes?

If there is no legal set up, get one with this issue in mind.

It is abusive to call a parent names in the hearing of the child

Your kids are confused and there is nothing here you need to take personally

When they call you a name, call them on it. Tell them the name is not kind. Don't ask where they heard it, you already know.

So she calls you fatter then her? That upsets you? Why and how can her opinion cause you pain?

The kids are hurting and lack tools for how to handle this.

You can teach them to ignore. You can teach them it is unkind to call names, just as unkind to repeat them.

Don't call her names, or him.

Good idea to write it all down

Katherine - posted on 07/24/2011




How old are they? My 2yo does this. I would make it very clear that you are not to be called anything but mom. And I would also talk to the father. That is completely inappropriate behavior.

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