Why is my son so dark ??

Aij - posted on 06/05/2013 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Ok moms..i am african american, my sons dad is biracial, black and white..i dont understand why my son is a bit darker than me..i thought he wohld be lighter, since hes 25% white..do yu guys think thats strange ?

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Dove - posted on 06/10/2013

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Actually Samira... I'm a white woman w/ white babies. I just know that not everyone understands how genetics work and maybe she just truly didn't know. Nothing in her post suggested she was unhappy with the color of her child's skin... just seemed like she was curious about genetics... and I don't see anything wrong with someone wanting to LEARN.

Dove - posted on 06/10/2013

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And how could 'I' be the poster when I answered the posters question about genetics.... lol Comprehension and maturity issues here....?

Evangelyna - posted on 06/09/2013

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It's just genetics. Both of my grandparents on my dads side had a pretty medium complexion, my aunt and uncle have the same skin tone but my dad is very fair skinned. His tan lines are so bad during the summer he looks like he stole body parts from someone else lol My sister is my half sister and her mom is Portuguese, from the Azores, and has a dark tan complexion, my sister is the lightest person in the entire family. My sisters moms dad actually thought her mom had an affair because she was so white when she was born lol
My sister has brown eyes, she married a blonde haired, blue eyed man. Their daughter has bright blue eyes. It's all just genetics. It's impossible to know which genes the child is going to take and which ones they won't. Everyone has dominant and recessive genes. I'm sure we've all seen someone who doesn't look anything like their parents but if you look at an old family photo they'll be the spitting image of that great great somebody on whomevers side. I knew a girl who was very fair, blonde straight hair, freckles and blue eyes. Both of her parents were very dark, dark curly hair, dark eyes. Their parents were all dark. But if you went back far enough you would probably have found someone on both sides with blonde hair and blue eyes.

My SO is white with blue eyes and straight dark hair. I have brown eyes, medium complexion and dark wavy hair. The only thing I know for sure since I found out via ultrasound is the kid has curly hair. But that might change. I had wavy hair as a child and then it curled, then it straightened and now it's wavy. Go figure. This kid could come out white as snow with blue eyes or he could look mixed or he could be dark. There's no way of knowing because of the genes I carry. He could have blue eyes, brown eyes, green or hazel eyes, grey eyes. I won't know until he's here. Things could also change as your child ages.

My dad used to have the same complexion as his siblings and parents, as he got older his skin lightened.
My brother (half-brother) had a medium tan complexion growing up that would sometimes be a little lighter, as he got older he started getting darker and looking more Samoan.
The way your son looks now is not necessarily the way he will always look and it's nothing to be concerned about either way.

It's nothing you can predict, it's all in the genes. :)

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Eva - posted on 06/12/2013

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No, strange is that you are so concern about it. My friend is white and her husband of African origin they have 5 kids all shades and colors from blond blue eyes to absolutely African looking. Many times white couple get black kids if their ancestors where black sometime in the past so they may not even know about it.

User - posted on 06/11/2013

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You would need to go back and look at your family tree. Genetics! I have seen a situation where both brown eyed parents had a child that had blue eyes. That happens if both parents happen to have a blue gene (that skipped a generation). You , and your husband may have a great grandparent that was very dark skinned and therefore your baby caught that gene.

Luvsomebody6 - posted on 06/11/2013

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I agree with others. It's definitely all about the genes. My husband and I have been studying the genes from his family. I'm a redhead Irish girl. Everyone in my family and my nieces and nephews all have red hair. Now they say red hair is a recessive gene. However you have two Redheaded genes, your chances of having a red head increase drastically. Guess that has happened for everyone in my family. Now my children are going to be interesting because my husband is black. His grandmothers two brothers and their mother had red hair tho! And they have light skin although my husband is dark. So we might have some caramel, freckled, light-eyed red heads running around! I'm 6 weeks along and I sooo can't wait to meet my little one to find out what genes become prevalent!!

Brittney - posted on 06/11/2013

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No I don't think its strange because genetics have a tendency to work in strange ways. But regardless why do you even care? Does it really matter how dark your son is?

Bo - posted on 06/10/2013

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Really? Either 1. you got knocked up by another guy or 2. Its genetics, dont worry about it. You can't predict how things operate in conception.

Lana - posted on 06/10/2013

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No, since you have more melanin your husband can not overcast the child with his lighter genes. I have seen a white woman and an african make a dark mixed child with straight hair before. Why do people have such a problem with being dark?

Samira - posted on 06/10/2013

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I feel it. It shouldn't matter like I said just be grateful and thank god u even have a child.

Samira - posted on 06/10/2013

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Why u keep defending her. The only thing that makes sense to me the way ur just defending her its probably ur the one posted that. Lol and u just keep on defending urself cause as long as u have a healthy baby who cares how dark or how light they are. There's couples out there who pray and wish every night they even had a baby.

Lala - posted on 06/09/2013

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Why does it matter? I find that's about the second thing black folks say about my daughter. "Oh she will be dark skinned" As if its an affliction.

Dove - posted on 06/09/2013

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So you started posting just to ridicule a mother with a question? Well... that's mature...

Samira - posted on 06/08/2013

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And the only reason why I said is cause my son is East African and his dad is creole and his dad is way lighter than me and his pretty much in between. But I'm not sitting here stressing why he's not super light skinned. Even though he is. But at the end of day I don't care about his skin color.

Aij - posted on 06/08/2013

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Thanx ladies ! That helpsy understanding alot..i appreciate everyones responses.y question has been anwsered..:)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/06/2013

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No, it's not strange at all. Genetics doesn't go be "percentage", but by dominance of traits.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/06/2013

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Nope. I don't think it is weird. Genetics don't work by percentages of how much someone is white or black. It is the dominant gene that will come out.

Dove - posted on 06/05/2013

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Yep. Genetics are funny things. I've even known of two white skinned people having a dark skinned baby because somewhere along the lines there was a black ancestor.

Growing up I knew a biracial couple that had two kids. As far as skin coloring went, the son looked JUST like the mother and the daughter looked JUST like the father. Without the 4 of them together you would have no clue that both kids biologically came from both parents. ;)

Aij - posted on 06/05/2013

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yes, tht definitely makes since..:)..i will do research, but genetics is really alot..thank you michelle.

Michelle - posted on 06/05/2013

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Yes he is 25% white but it doesn't mean it was the white genes that created him. It may pay to do some research on genetics to help you understand, there's too much to go into here.

Ev - posted on 06/05/2013

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I am not sure how to answer that though I have seen kids whose one parent is dark and the other white and they take after either or. Some are even in the middle of the coloring. I think it depends on the genetics and what is more dominate than the other.

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