Why my baby hates me?

Penelope - posted on 04/27/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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My baby girl has some changes in her behavior she just want to be with her daddy,I dont know what to do!and she is only 1 year and 8 months.Is that normal for her to act that way toward me.She cry and cry like Im hurting her,she hits me.OMG it brakes my heart!!!.Her daddy work from home so he is here all day and she just want to be with him!Not me....Im the saddest person in the world right now!Thanks for your help!

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Annie - posted on 04/27/2010

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does the father work all day i have noticed my 5 month old gets sooky durin the day n does not want me but as soon as dads home he cheers up n wants dad dad dad n not me children go through favourism stages it will surely pass soon enough n then she will want you

Mika - posted on 04/27/2010

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My daughter bounced back and forth between me and her daddy for almost two years. Now she loves us both at the same time. I think it's just a stage.

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User - posted on 03/13/2013

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I'm in the same boat, and me and his dad aren't even together. He'd still rather be with his dad though- after I'm the 1 who does everything for my son, 100% financial support comes from me, he lives with me only, i take him to his dr appts, playdates, church, etc., and as soon as he sees me he starts crying and trying to hit me =(

Penelope - posted on 04/28/2010

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Thanks everyone!for your help I feel lots better now that I know Im not alone:)

Stephanie - posted on 04/27/2010

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My son does the same thing. Only we are both with them all day. My daughter wants nothing to do with her father and everything to do with me. My son on the other hand....

Jamie - posted on 04/27/2010

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I go through that with my son, my mom always watches him while my husband and I work and he seems to want to just stay with her and throws a fit when we try to take him home. He also takes spells where he will want either me or my husband. It always breaks my heart when he doesn't want me but I know he loves me.

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2010

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My baby girl is just under a year old and she gets that way too. I stay home with her all day and as soon as her dad or brother get home from work she's right ove to them. I'm the only one she bites, although I think that they are love nibbles, and as soon as she's hurt she comes running over to me to be cuddled. Don't be so hard on yourself, I know it's horrible when your baby doesn't want to spend time with you but she'll probably grow out of it.

Becca - posted on 04/27/2010

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Just an idea... Is there anything you can think of that your daughter would love doing, a new craft or something like that? If so, you maybe able to encourage your daughtr to sit down for 5min with you to do something 'really fun'. it might not solve the phase she is going through but it might give you a small amount of time you can spend happily with her till she outgrows the phase

Jami - posted on 04/27/2010

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My daughter is the same way unless she is sick. I think that kids just go through spurts and that you just have to stick it out. I would say that the hitting needs to stop but the rest is normal.

Diana - posted on 04/27/2010

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I've never had a problem with my kids not wanting me, but it took a long time to get my daughter to go to her dad. She always wants me. My son so far is the same way. I think it is because I am always with them. Daddy isn't always there cause he has to go away for months at a time for the military. It took quite a few times of handing them to him even if they wanted me. Now when my husband gets home my daughter is all over him. It is a phase, your child will get over it. Good luck!

Angie - posted on 04/27/2010

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Don't take it personally, it's not personal to your daughter. The honest truth is that she is more comfortable with him because she is with him more - it'll change it time. Hang in there!

Jenn - posted on 04/27/2010

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Yeah, when Daddy gets home after work, the girls go running to him and cry to be picked up before he's even in the door! LOL As for the hitting, I think most kids go through a phase of that, but you can't allow it or it will only get worse ;)

Lee - posted on 04/27/2010

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Try not to be offended, don't take it personally.. U r her mum. Of course she loves u.. it could hinder if u r the disciplinarian. With my kids I was the one who said NO n Dad was who they had fun with. It hurts sumtimes I know but try not to let it get to u ;)

Jodi - posted on 04/27/2010

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Penelope, I think it is perfectly normal. I agree that if daddy is working all day, and she is with you, then that would explain it. My daughter drops me like a hot potato the minute her dad walks in the door at night. She's a daddy's girl :) She's now 5 and is still a daddy's girl!!

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i don't think she hates you. sometimes kids go through phases where they prefer one parent over the other. i would probably be hurt by it too, but try not to take it personally

Sherre - posted on 04/27/2010

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Yes. My son hits me all the time and when he cries or gets hurt, he wants his daddy. I definitely think it's a phase that will pass. You're not the only one so don't worry! :)

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