WHY MY HUSBAND IS SO BORING!!!!!!!!

Pragati - posted on 08/22/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Hi,
Its almost four years to my marriage but my husband is same. He is four years younger then me but quite boring honestly, he don't like to go for outing, no movies, no were i can say except eating, watching videos, playing games, listening to music. Even i changed according to him but still don't know what to do? what's wrong with my life? i don't have anyone except him?
Communication is the big source in relationship i tried, so many times i had a word with him regarding this topic but no use its useless. Only Yes Yes Yes We will definitely one day but his one day will never come because its almost four years listening to same music.
Now i am tired don't know what to do?

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Dove - posted on 08/24/2014

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People do change and grow all the time, but you can not marry someone and expect them to change to be what you want. When you marry someone you are committing to love and accept them the way they ARE... not hoping for them to become what you want them to be.

If you think he is boring and it doesn't sound like you really like him all that much... you owe it to him to let him go and find a woman that will love and appreciate him for him... or you suck it up and realize that he is who he is and you find something that he enjoys that the two of you can enjoy together.

Marriage takes commitment and maturity... and it sounds like you are lacking in one, if not both of those.

Dove - posted on 08/27/2014

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You don't have to go out. Time together enjoying each others company is important, but going out is not.

Your follow up here sounds like you have a lot of other issues than just him being 'boring', but that was all you mentioned... so all we could address.

Pragati - posted on 08/27/2014

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Hello everyone,
I am very thankful for such a lovely responds, but i am hopeless because you all took me wrong, i know mans are like kids also they don't like to talk about feelings. Honestly i don't want to change him because its almost four years now i am changing for him every day, fulfilling his expectation. i am just asking being a life partner i don't have right to see a single change in him.
Fighting and argument is not a part of my life.
I am not asking for any big deal from him just to go out, talk, plan for family and make our relation more better. Most of the time people ask me that " Do you guys go for outing? " and my reply is no we don't have time for this and they say oh its very important in relationship to go for outing once in a year because these days never come back in life so better you think. plan family instead of bringing puppy's at home and working like labour.
Why i am the one who is listening to people not my husband?
And whenever he come to know about such talks then he say people are very clever they know how to come between relationship, no body wants to see us happy.

So i am looking for suggestion that how i can convince my husband to spend some time for relationship.

Thank's

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Sofia - posted on 07/10/2016

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The best way to 'make' someone come to you....is to go away. I mean make plans by yourself, join a class, a group. Don't rely on him for fun. He may want to join you one day

Michelle - posted on 08/27/2014

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Was he like that before you got married? If he was then you are expecting him to change.
My husband and I don't go out very often, we prefer to stay home with each other and the kids.
Why not just plan something if it bothers you so much. Let him know what day and if he wants to go he will and if not then go on your own.

Iracema Du - posted on 08/26/2014

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Hey, a good book to read is Mars and Venus Together Forever! Trust me you will go through that book and relate to some things if not everything! I can relate to what your saying in regards to saying you husband is boring! Sometimes I feel the same about my own husband, but I also realise being home with a baby/children all day can strip you of your identity especially if your a stay at home mum. Recently my husband and I have not been connecting thus not investing in our relationship but I'm not angry at him as I understand that he has his own pressures at work. When you have a family you can't expect things to be how they where when it was just the 2 of you and I would have to agree with the other ladies that when you marry someone you should not try and change them because you fell in love with them for who they are and visa versa. Remember men don't talk about feelings then simply go into their little man cave. You both need to work on your relationship maybe some time away alone together. Hope I have been of some help!

Ahndrea - posted on 08/25/2014

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I agree with everyone else.. When you marry someone you shouldn't be hoping they will change. Marriage takes commitment on both parts.. You two really need marriage counseling ... Wish u the best.. ( if I were you I would set up a date night and put a sticky note on the fridge explaining what day you guys are going and what you are doing, say this is what I would like to do.. If you don't wish to come that's fine I'll go by myself)

Ev - posted on 08/25/2014

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I have to agree with these ladies here. It takes the both of you to make a marriage work and it sounds like you are waiting for something that may not happen. You need to go to counseling.

Pragati - posted on 08/24/2014

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Hi, since four years i never expected anything from him, i am still waiting to see changes in him that comes from inside.

Jodi - posted on 08/22/2014

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I must admit, I'm wondering why you married him if he was so boring too.

Dove - posted on 08/22/2014

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You say he's the same? As in the same as when you married him? If you think your husband is boring... why did you marry him? Going out and about isn't for everyone. If you married him expecting him to change... that was your mistake, not his.

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