Why? Why? Why?

Dove - posted on 01/20/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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WHY do people post and ask for opinions when they really don't want them?! If you are confident in your decision and you are going to argue w/ anyone that has an opposite opinion... just do whatever you are going to do and don't waste our time posting about it.

If you actually WANT to hear other opinions... great, but don't get all defensive and lock your post when you hear something other than what it is you want to do. It gets old and makes people not want to respond to people anymore.... cuz what's the point?

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Jodi - posted on 01/21/2016

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Andrea, I think we see a lot of posts here where someone asks for advice, then, when we give honest advice, they get all butt hurt because that's not what they wanted to hear. It's kind of asking "does my bum look big in this" and then being shocked if someone says, "well, yes, it does"....then proceeding to give you all the reasons WHY your bum looks totally fine in it. So why ask in the first place? I think that's where Dove is coming from.

Sometime, people need honest answers, even if it isn't what they WANT to hear.

Ev - posted on 01/21/2016

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I want to be a help to others and supportive and as the other ladies have said; it gets old when someone asks for help and support but blows off the advice that is given because its not what they wanted to hear in the first place. A lot of us here have been there and done that or know of someone in our families or among our friends that have been in the same situation. We also get parents asking advice on how to handle kids and even given advice then they do not like what they get because it does not go along with what they want to do. I can not understand parents who want to let the kids run the household for example. They ask what to do about a teen who wants to have sleep overs with a boyfriend or girlfriend because they do not want to hurt their child's feelings. We tell them its not a good idea and then they get mad because we point out things that could happen in the long run after the fact. They ask about how to handle a younger child's tantrums and when it is described what they do and it is not a consistent thing...they get mad when given advice of how to handle it because again its not what they want to hear.

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Dove - posted on 01/21/2016

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Yes... the reason I am here is to just give my opinion. ;) And to connect w/ a few of the ladies that I've been posting w/ for years. I do generally WANT to help others, but when they flat out ask what you would do and why and then you answer them honestly and they get offended and 'run away'... it gets old. Especially when what they WANT to do is abuse their child or illegally keep them away from the other parent or many other things....

I genuinely CARE about kids... all kids... and I can't shut that off to hold someone's hand who is potentially harming their child.

Andrea - posted on 01/20/2016

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Maybe people are just reaching out for support.

Obviously, to me anyway, no one would NEED to post anything, if we were all totally confident in all of our decisions.

I joined because I am stressed, worried sick, and feel totally alone.

I received two responses, and they were not supportive, caring, or helpful. Actually just the opposite. I felt really bad after I read them.

Maybe look at the reason YOU are here. Is it really just to give your opinion?

I was going to delete my account, but actually now I think I will stay. I promise to try and give support when I see someone reaching out for it.

Ev - posted on 01/20/2016

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I had an ultrasound done of my abdomen and the lower area....they found endometriosis. So not only do I have a gastro doc to see I got to see a OB doc too.

Ev - posted on 01/20/2016

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Got to love this Dove. i agree with you.

Just a bit off topic...I have found out about a new diagnosis that the doctors gave me.

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