why won't my 5 year old answer people when they talk to them? It's so rude. I don't get it. I think she thinks it's funny.

Susan - posted on 02/06/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My mom comes over and says hi to Megan, my 5 year old. And she won't acknowledge her. Then my mom is mad and says I'm not teaching her manners. I mean of course I think it's rude. I can see a smile when I look at Megan. But she continues to ignore her.Ughh

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Ki - posted on 02/21/2016

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Just wanted to throw in my two-cents on a comment thats 3 yrs old. Lol.
Paraphrasing, of course.

*Mom takes things personally when it comes to your kids

Shouldn't she? She is their grandmother, after all. Right? I'm not a grandmother but if my mother were to say hello and my kid didn't address her in return... Oops. Problem!
Definitely. We acknowledge mimi's and papa's when we see them. Is your child sick? Injured or in immediate danger? If not, thank goodness and also no reason to not acknowledge her granma. I think it's a matter of respect and love. As a result of the two, voila- Courtesy.
This is opinion.
My kids better acknowledge their grandparents. Their *greats too. MY grandparents! Most of them deserve respect. Jmho

Belinda - posted on 02/07/2012

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Consider asking her to look at the person when she smiles at them. She may think that she is responding by smiling, but not understand that they need to see her smile at them.



I wonder if you could tell her that it looks like she is ignoring them and it makes them feel bad.This may help her to understand on a personal level. Also suggest waving at them.

User - posted on 02/07/2012

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A lot of kids experience shyness, even with people they know well, and it can be made worse by the pressure of having to behave in a certain way with that person. If your mum relaxes a bit and gets down to your daughter's level, she may find Megan opens up a bit to her.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/06/2012

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Kids do this crap. Sometimes it is social anxiety, sometimes it is to test the boundaries. I would just sit down with your daughter and talk to her about how to address people when they say hello. Tell her what you expect, and tell your mom not to take it so personally. She is only 5. Instead of saying hi, maybe your mom should go right over to where she is and start playing with her. Get your daughter excited about seeing her.

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Rivkie - posted on 12/13/2012

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Hi, so my daughter who is 5 in Kindergaten speaks to her immediate family, my mother, my fatherinlaw and her friends! It took some loving and warmth from her kindergarten teacher and now talks to her and paryicipates in circle time. School wanted her to see a therapist, she won't talk to her at all, she said since she understands everything, doing all her work, above education level since her teacher can now test her abilities, that we shouldn't push her but just include her in everything and encourage her to participate in everything! We will keep an eye on her, it is a little frustrating since she will not speak to my motherinlaw at all! Lol

Susan - posted on 02/07/2012

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Sometimes I think the smile is her hello. I can't tell what's going on. She used to be so outgoing and now she clings to me for everything. Thank you everyone. Everyone's posts make sense. Thanks so much!

Susan - posted on 02/07/2012

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thanks so much for your support. Megan's friend came over this morning for me to take to school. He said hi to her and she just turned around and smiled. UGH...I just spoke to her about responding to people when they talk to her. When I was walking her to her class room the Assistant Principle said hello to her. And she just put her head down and smiled. Maybe I should stop telling her to say hi. should I leave her alone and see what happens? I apologize to everyone for her not responding.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/07/2012

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Yeah, moms can suck like that. Just remember this when you have grand kids

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Susan - posted on 02/06/2012

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I will definitely sit her down and try to talk to her again. Thank you for responding.



Now as for my mother...everything is personal when it comes to my kids.:(

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