Why won't she poop train???

Nathalie - posted on 07/03/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm at my wits end!

My 4 year old was a very reluctant potty trainer. At the suggestion of everyone (except the family), we let it go because she supposidly was not ready. Well she's 4 now so no one will make me believe she is not ready; she is stubborn! And that is different.

I went through the whole "Potty Boot Camp" program and she passed through it with flying colours! Proof to me that she was indeed ready; she just needed to be pushed into it. However, this program encourages naked intervals, which I did because I understood the concept and it's a good idea. Problem is, I had to start the whole process over once I put her back into clothes.

So here we are on week two of Potty training attempt number 5. I am encouraged by the progress I have seen: she self-initiates to go pee. She senses she needs to go and will go on her own, then calls me to whip her. But pooping, she either doesn't get or doesn't want to.

We have a child psychologist involved (though she is on vacation at the moment) and we know it is not a medical issue since she'll go when naked. At the suggestion of the psychologist, I'm with a "merit/demerit" attitude: you decide if you poop in the toilet or in your pants; you get a reward if you choose the toilet, you get a consequence if you choose your pants.

This child LOVES TV: the TV has been turned off for the past 5 days. She gets Smarties, which she loves, if she poops in the toilet: but unless she is peeing and a small BM comes out, she hasn't had any. I feel like she has more negatives than positives right now and NOTHING is getting the job done!

What can I do???

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Nathalie - posted on 09/03/2012

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Well, here we are at the begining of September and I am relieved to say we have a little progress.



My daughter used to poop in the bathtub, so the psychologist said to give her showers until she understands the bathtub is not the place to poop. I showered her throughout July and in August started giving her baths again. She now stays clean in the tub and last week, oh glorious day, she got out of the tub and actually pooped in the toilet! Hallelujah!!



I was hopeful this would be the click that would make her get it and it would be over,,, but that was wishful thinking. However, she now does poop more often in the toilet (though she starts out in the undies, drats).



Much to my relief, her preschool teacher does NOT want her in school with Pull-Ups, so I am hopeful that it will be a good influence on her.

Nathalie - posted on 07/10/2012

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Well, pediatrician found nothing physically wrong (no big surprise, but nonetheless a relief).
He says it's a matter of her letting me know she's in control and to just drop the whole subject: don't talk to her about it, ignore it, and eventually she'll get it.

I just hope she "gets it" before preschool next month.

Nathalie - posted on 07/04/2012

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I tried that. She wanted a Disney Princess doll and I told her she would get it after a certain amount of stickers on the calendar. That was last week. Yet another of the many MANY things I have tried and that seems to fail.

Out of desperation, I took an appointment with her pediatrician for this Friday. She's returning to DayCare next week, and my fear is the little progress I have made since last week will be regressed by the fact that her daycare provider refuses to take her without Pull-Ups as long as she is having accidents. :(

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2012

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with my daughter I was having the same issue, so I made her a chart and attached a picture of a microphone she had been asking for to the chart. I then took her to the bathroom where we hung the chart and I told her that when she had a sticker on each day of the chart we would go buy her the microphone. She was completely poop trained in two weeks. The catch is you have to find something she really really wants.

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