Nathalie - posted on 07/03/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I'm at my wits end!
My 4 year old was a very reluctant potty trainer. At the suggestion of everyone (except the family), we let it go because she supposidly was not ready. Well she's 4 now so no one will make me believe she is not ready; she is stubborn! And that is different.
I went through the whole "Potty Boot Camp" program and she passed through it with flying colours! Proof to me that she was indeed ready; she just needed to be pushed into it. However, this program encourages naked intervals, which I did because I understood the concept and it's a good idea. Problem is, I had to start the whole process over once I put her back into clothes.
So here we are on week two of Potty training attempt number 5. I am encouraged by the progress I have seen: she self-initiates to go pee. She senses she needs to go and will go on her own, then calls me to whip her. But pooping, she either doesn't get or doesn't want to.
We have a child psychologist involved (though she is on vacation at the moment) and we know it is not a medical issue since she'll go when naked. At the suggestion of the psychologist, I'm with a "merit/demerit" attitude: you decide if you poop in the toilet or in your pants; you get a reward if you choose the toilet, you get a consequence if you choose your pants.
This child LOVES TV: the TV has been turned off for the past 5 days. She gets Smarties, which she loves, if she poops in the toilet: but unless she is peeing and a small BM comes out, she hasn't had any. I feel like she has more negatives than positives right now and NOTHING is getting the job done!
What can I do???