why wont she sleep!!?

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my daughter is 6months old and she takes good naps during the day that are like maybe 15 mins long and she doesnt take many of them. but im up right now at almost 3 in the moring and she still hasn't gone to sleep. what can i do???? i try to let her cry it out and that doesnt work plus we are in an apartment so i dont wanna the others mad. and im the only one gettin up. my husband hasnt helped one bit nonight. but he does work full time. i NEED HELP PLEASE!

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Carly - posted on 05/03/2011

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OK, where to start... Good naps during the day that are 15 mins??? That is a nightmare!! At 6 months my children were up at 7-7.30am, back asleep from 9-11am, up until about 1pm then asleep for 2hrs until 3pm and then she usuallly had a late rest from 4.45-5.30pm to tide he rover til bedtime at 7pm (and then she slept until 7am). I have lots of questions... Does she sleep in her own room in the dark? Do you feed her to sleep or do the sleep-feed-play routine? Is she warm enough? Are you sure she is getting enough milk? I am trying to think of all the things I would eliminate that may be making her wake up or not settle... Does she have a dummy/pacifier? It sounds like she has never been taught to settle herself? Do you give her a good feed and burp, pop her on the floor to play for an hour or so and then pop her in her cot for a nap? It also sounds as if she is totally overstimulated and overtired. Is she upset when awake or just cries when you pop her in her cot? You need to take control with a strict routine and I recommend The Contented Little Baby Book by Gina Ford. An absolute godsend.

Carly - posted on 05/03/2011

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Have you tried baby sleeping bags (Grobags) for her to sleep in? They come with a room thermometer and sleep dressing guide which I found great. Always put her in her cot to sleep and if you use the bags you don't need to worry about her pulling bedding over her head and suffocating. Get rid of bumpers and toys too, they are only for decoration and pose more hazard than anything else. You don't need to watch her sleep, she will be fine and if you keep checking on her you will either keep her awake or wake her up and you will never get anything done!
I never let any of my babies get too hysterical as I didn't really think it was necessary, but you can tell the difference between having a whinge, having a cry and being past hysterical. If she was hysterical I would give her a quick cuddle to calm her down but then pop her back in her cot with a ssshhhh and then leave again. Short naps absolutely NOT normal (how have you been coping?? I would be out of my mind!) but babies need us to teach them how to sleep properly! Good luck Shellee, stick to your guns and you will be a happy mummy in no time!

Bonnie - posted on 05/03/2011

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If she is taking 15 minute naps here and there, she may not be getting enough sleep during the day which is causing her to be over tired at night and keeping her up. Try to get her to take at least two naps for an hour or two each time. Being more well rested during the day could help with night time.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2011

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It's okay for a baby to cry..if you know she is fed..clean..pain free then let her cry. If you keep getting up for every little whine ..you are teaching her to keep getting up.
Letting her cry teaches her how to soothe herself back to sleep..most importantly..when she does get up ..don't take her out and walk around everywhere and turn lights on...go in ..rub her back and get the hell out if you absolutely insist on going in.

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Joanna - posted on 05/06/2011

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my 6 month old cosleeps with me, i sidecared her crib to my bed. So she actually sleeps in her crib but it's just next to my bed so at night when she wakes i pull her right over to me and nurse her then when shes done, i push her right back and we both go right back to sleep. it's the best! and that means her bed and blanket always smell like me and so she sleeps better. we also have a fan in the room that makes the white noise sound and so during the day, after i nurse her, i put her down for her nap and turn on the fan and she doesn't even hear my toddler (2 1/2) playing in the living room. I close the door mostly but leave it cracked just so i can hear her better. She's a very needy baby in the fact that when i put her down to play she cries (refulx) and so I hold her most of the day in a ring sling. I love it! works great and she loves being a part of whatever I do during the day. which usually involves playing and running around or going to the park with my adventurous toddler! lol I make ring slings if you'd like to know more, message me! Hope you get a schedule figured out soon. :) good luck!

Krystal - posted on 05/05/2011

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Some babies take shorter naps. My 9 month old takes longer ones and sleeps about 11 hours straight at night. He started this at about 4 months (seems like his routine is about to change). It took a couple weeks to first of all figure out when he wanted to nap and also to steer him towards that schedule consistantly. Teething can definately keep them up and make them lighter sleepers. Chewing on paci, blankets, toys is a big sign. My son also grimaces while he chews when he is teething. I use my doctors recommended dose of infant tylenol to ease the pain. He usually goes to sleep peacefully about 30 min later. But that is an occasional thing. Being so tired yourself makes it harder to come up with other ideas. Don't be so hard on yourself. Follow your mommy instinct and keep asking for advice. Some people are judgemental about other mommy's decision but YOU ARE THE MOMMY and remember that. If she continues to repeatedly stay up that late, I would make an appointment with her doctor to make sure there is not a medical reason. Early on, my son had gastro issues that kept him up at night for hours. GOOD LUCK!!!

Kim - posted on 05/05/2011

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Also for day naps ( I just read you have another child) get a sling, wrap or carrier. Babys are well known to sleep more often and for longer periods of time when they are carried. You are also hands free so you can get things done and not have to let her cry it out

Kim - posted on 05/05/2011

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If your on facebook check out this link about sleeping and babies and how crying affects thier brain development ect

Kim - posted on 05/05/2011

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I personally dont think its ok to let your baby cry, I have three and they all Sleep through the night I have never let them cry it out. If she is breast fed co-sleep with her (if she is your only child) do it for naps to. Seriously she is going through a growth spurt and needs you more often, you will get more sleep if you can just put her on the boob and go back to sleep. Rather than getting out of bed walking to her room, by this stage she has cried herself into a frenzy waking everyone. She will grow out of it, it is a just a stage she is going though. my bub breast fed and co-slept til 7months when she started sleeping through I put her in her own bed. Just do what that baby wants for a while trust me you will see it works and really what have you got to lose? why would you want to stress yourself out by letting that poor baby cry it out.
what does that say to her? "ok so your upset, but i dont care"

I welcome the shit storm that is to come but all situations are different. dont let anyone make you feel bad about what you do, mine is just another opinion another option for you to choose

Carly - posted on 05/04/2011

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We have 4 children under 6 (the youngest is now 9 months and the oldest will turn 6 years in Sept) and my hubby thinks I sit around all day too. It is all go go go but I love it. Once you get your routine sorted and start having naps at regular times each day you will be a new woman and bubs will thank you for it. Good luck!

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I find that if I give my son a bath with this stuff called nighttime bath. He sleeps really good. It's an aromatheraphy foaming bath soap for babies. You can get it at any store. I just buy the no name brand and it works like a charm.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/04/2011

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It's so nice when you post something on here and someone really does benefit from it. I wish you all the best Shellee.

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@carly i have no idea how i handled the 15mins naps. i thought it was all normal. but im startin to put her in her crib for her naps with the door shut. we are goin to start doin things a lil different around here. and i think my husband thinks its so easy watching 3 kids all day. and gettin up at night also.

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i know and i feel the same way, but the couple times he has helped i feel bad. and hes always in a grumpy mood when he does it. then i wonder if he just did it half ass to get it over with. idk but i agree

JuLeah - posted on 05/03/2011

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You work full time too. Kids do this and if you have a partner, you both can take turns, which helps a lot.

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AHHHHH thanks everyone!!!! she has taken an hour long nap and shes still sleepin! I THOUGHT SHORT NAPS WERE NORMAL. we will see how tonight goes.

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how can i make her sleep that long. i try puttin her in her own room but then i cant keep an eye on her and the two lil girls in seperet rooms. im a worrier my husband says. if its hot i just put her in a diaper. and i put a lite blanket on her. just to snuggle. any tips to make her sleep longer???

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sorry i didnt read every answer. i didnt scroll down all the way. she does sleep in her own room but with a night light so i can see her. i dont know how much she eats cuz i breastfeed her. but i always know when shes full cuz she pulls away and and sighs with a smile. and starts tryin to sit up. she does have a pacifier when she sleeps. i try not to give it to her all the time but she cant go to sleep with out it. she is use to noise when she sleeps. so do i need to start puttin her in her room when she takes her naps? i babysit two other lil girls so its not always quite in the apartment. lol. what are signs for teething also? could that be an other reason? she cries when i leave the room but i dont pick her up everytime she cries. i let her fuss during the day to get it all out but then i soothe after a while. should i put a cd player in her room at night?

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ill try that. it just makes me feel bad lettin her cry for so long. and its not just a lil cry either. she loses her breathe and chokes after so long. what if she has a cold? she has a burgery nose and has been sneezin a lot. and her eyes have been watery. but she acts like her cheery self. plus we leave in an apartment so i dont wanna make everyone else mad at 2 or 3 in the mornin.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/03/2011

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I agree Carly..the naps don't sound very fulfilling. I would lose my freaking mind if that were my life.

I feel for you and would love to hear the responses to Carly's questions so we can maybe help you sort this out.

My babies also had 3 or 4 naps during the day which were a few hours long each and then they still slept a 6-8 hr stretch at night

Stifler's - posted on 05/03/2011

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maybe she likes the noise at daytime like the tv, people talking, you walking around. does she have a mobile or a cd player you can soothing sounds cds and stuff.

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