Will family include her, afraid to ask family

Mae - posted on 11/18/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi All, so happy to have a place to ask this. My son's gf is 4 mo. pregnant with his baby. My husband and I love his gf and are excited about it all! Coming soon is the 'Ladie's Luncheon" that the women in the family have every year at Christmas time and I want the gf to come, she is family already to me tho' not married to my son. The event is at one of the women's home BTW. I am concerned it will make the hostess feel cornered if I call and ask if the gf can come. What to do?

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Mae - posted on 11/18/2015

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Well it seems that I may be making a bigger a big deal out of nothing based on these 2 responses. Thx. I will just ask.

Ev - posted on 11/18/2015

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All you need do is say that you'd like to include her if it is okay with the others.

Mae - posted on 11/18/2015

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Yes, I can handle a 'no'. Just don't want to have to suffer the scorn of being spoken of as being 'rude' for asking. Trying to find a more subtle way to do this so that gf feels part of the family.

Brahmsacademic - posted on 11/18/2015

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I assume that you, like most people on here, plan for your daughter to go to college straight out of high school AND graduate in 4 years. Most people don't do this. https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d13/tables/dt13_104.20.asp http://www.politifact.com/wisconsin/stat... https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d13/tables/dt13_326.10.asp http://business.time.com/2013/01/10/the-... http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/educat...

Therefore, she won't be anywhere close to being the first one to drink. Even if you had been a year older, you still probably wouldn't have been close to being the first to drink. And this makes sense. There are more variables that go into when you graduate college other than when you start Kindergarten. Redshirting is actually quite rare, but graduating college late is very common. A 23-year-old graduating college is way more common than a 19-year-old graduating high school.

Ev - posted on 11/18/2015

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All you can do is call and ask if it is alright to bring the GF and the worst case you get told no.

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