Charlotte - posted on 10/06/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
As part of the last court order, my 8-year-old daughter's father and I share each vacation period...which gives me about 3-4 days of vacation with her. My family lives 12 hours away. My daughters live in Chicago and Portland, OR. I can't always afford to fly and the drive takes about 12-14 hours. This Thanksgiving my eldest daughter, who lives in Portland, has begged us to come. She has been there for 6 years and I have never been able to visit her. I have my "vacation" with Natalie from end of school..Wednesday afternoon, until Friday morning at 11 am.
I have asked her father 5 times by e-mail if he would agree to give me the whole vacation period in exchange for his having her next Easter vacation. He has not replied. This is his passive-aggressive behavior. He waits until it is too late for me to make arrangements and then gives his "permission". I am thinking about this:
On the Friday before Thanksgiving, taking Natalie out of school and getting on a flight to Portland. When we are on the plane, I will call him and notify him I am taking her out of state. I will make sure I have her back for his allotted time at 11am on Friday. During that time he will miss 3 days of care for her. I know you can get in BIG trouble for "withholding visitation". I don't want to be met at the airport by police. But I can't get Natalie there and back on 3 days. It's a 5 hour flight. Christmas vacation, Easter, they are all just as bad...set up like this vacation. Should I do this? I want Natalie to know her sisters. She gets to see one about once/year and the one in Portland...never.