Will my separation anxiety go away?

Mama Giggles - posted on 07/07/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm new to this website but need some advice. Hope someone can help! I'm a first time mom and my daughter is just about 6 months old. I was hoping to go back to work soon...at least that was my plan before she was born. But now, I can't even leave her with anyone for more than 10 minutes without panicking. I don't even mean random people. I mean I cant leave her alone with either of her grandmas, my sisters, my brother, my husband's siblings, or any of our friends. ...no one.

After about 20 minutes of someone even holding her I take her back. Me and my husband went to a wedding reception and I left after about an hour because I had to go home. I was freaking out!!! Will this go away? Soon? Anyone have any ideas as to how I can slowly learn to detach myself?


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Mama Giggles - posted on 07/08/2011




Hi Claire, Vicki.
No i didnt have ppd. My thoughts pretty much were...

I wonder if shes ok
shes gotta be hungry now i wonder if they know
no one understands her but me they wont know
then i felt guilty and started to think how could i leave her

And im not leaving her with just anyone, i only left her with her grandma for the reception that one time.
The feeling anxious when anyone holds her part is because im afraid they will drop her lol i know they are adults but im always saying "be careful" and then "ok ill take her now" lol talk about paranoid right?

My relationship with my mom isnt so great, its better now than before due to my hard efforts but i fear if i let my baby feel abandoned at anytime she might be mad....i know shes only 6 months but.......so confused.
Thank you both for replying to me by the way.

Vicky - posted on 07/08/2011




I understand how you feel, i felt the same when my son was a baby. I went back to work when he was 3 months old, one day a week for 4 hours. I would leave him with his dad and if im honest i was uncomfortable with that. I love my husband and he did a great job but i just found it hard to seperate myself. For the whole year i would only have my husband look after him. From about 18months i now let family members watch him for a few hours and i dont feel anxious anymore. I think its a learning curve and with time you will let go abit more.

Claire - posted on 07/07/2011




Did you have PPD? Anxiety goes along with it. I would suggest talking to your OB, even though your daughter is 6 months already, she's seen you most regularly over the last year and can help you find yourself again and trust your family :)
Slowly detaching yourself only worked for me by having someone care for my babies while I took a nap or shower. When I went back to work, it had to happen like ripping off a band-aid. It sucked, but it had to be done.

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