Alli - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )
Okay, I've heard a million times --and I agree!-- that c-sections should only be used in case of emergency and not just for "fashion" and "convenience" purposes. People tend to forget it is a MAJOR operation because they are done all the time, and some doctors are just too busy and become "scalpel-happy."
HOWEVERRRRR, I am selfishly thinking of my VAGINA. I realize this sounds completely selfish, but if you think about it, it's really not! This is why I fear I'll have a "big, floppy vagina" after a vaginal birth:
-I've heard of women who have gone TEN YEARS without sex because they couldn't afford a vaginoplasty and they weren't able to "feel anything" during sex after just their FIRST child.
-my partner and I will experience emotional distress after sex becomes not-pleasurable or even embarrassing to me.
-my partner and I won't have anymore children because sex will be awkward for the both of us.
-intimacy is really important, and though you can be intimate in ALL KINDS OF WAYS, sex is still amazing!
No one wants to admit this fear because they're afraid of sounding selfish, stupid, etc. I don't think it's either, but I want everyone to be HONEST: was sex awful after birth? If you had an episiotomy did it end up making it BETTER? Do you regret your natural birth??
So indulge me, and please refrain from alienating other women with the same worry.