Will the courts question my legal and physical custody?

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Hi Ladies,

My husband and I recently filed jointly for a divorce in Minnesota. We have a 2 year old daughter and have been married almost three years. My husband has agreed to give me sole legal and sole physical custody and pay the suggested amount from the Minnesota Child Support Guidelines. We are reserving his parenting time for now. We are in full agreement, however I'm just wondering if anyone had a similar agreement in their divorce? I'm really nervous of course about everything and genuinely appreciate your answers.

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Jodi - posted on 08/24/2016

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I'm a bit confused. Are you saying he wants to "opt out" of parenting his child? What a stellar father!

A judge will probably approve whatever it is you agree, but seriously, how can you be okay about that? Your poor daughter, not having her father in her life, I bet he didn't think of how this would impact her. And I bet he won't think about her if he decides just to waltz back into her life either.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/24/2016

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I like the inclusive...LOL...

What does HE think? Not "WE"./..You aren't spouses any more. You don't get to speak "for" him

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No, we as in my spouse and I. We have written our parenting plan together. And for reserving his time, we reserved it meaning that at a later date we can go change our parenting plan if he so wishes

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/24/2016

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I don't agree with "reserving" his parenting time. He has the right to parent his child, same as you.

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The duplicates were an accident, I did it on my phone and it's my first question so each time I pressed post, I didn't know it posted! lol.

Dove - posted on 08/22/2016

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I would imagine if the two of you are in total agreement on custody/visitation orders it would just be a matter of the judge signing off on them. It is sounding as if he is wanting nothing to do w/ his daughter though... which is really crappy of him.

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Right now we are reserving it, meaning he isn't asking the court for parenting time (visitation) right now.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/22/2016

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As long as it is a reasonable agreement allowing him reasonable visitation, and you are both in agreement, a judge may agree to sign off on it.

What do you mean "reserving his parenting time"?

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