Wondering how to get my little boy to start sleeping in his room any tips will be grateful!!

Danielle - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I have just recently moved into a new flat and my little boy now has his own room now its really cosy and looks lovely but he will not sleep a whole night in his room by himself!! He is 14 months old and is a routine but since i have moved me and my partner are getting no sleep at night because of it!! Thanks

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Dawn - posted on 11/16/2012

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Oh I am having the same issue my three year old son will not sleep in his own bed in his own room we even had his bed inour room and i would hold his hand til he fell asleep but he would still wake up an hour or so later crying and now he has started this screaming fits when I try to be stern and make him stay in his bedroom but right now here i am still up after midnight and guess where the little guy is?? Yep in my bed with daddy cause daddy gave in and gave him what he wanted.... I am pulling my hair out over this... I get no time with my husband anymore plus now it looks like I am being kicked out of my own bed....I dont know what to do if I dont have support as well... I even tried tv nope that never worked cause he would just stay up all night watching ive tried staying in his room with him but after he fall asleep an hour layer the fits starts...I am at my wits end... I have tried every method possible and nothing is working and now I am also feeling I wait for my husband so I can spend time with him and that gets taken away as well bcuz he gives in and lets little man in bed and I get kicked out of bed... If anyone has any suggestions is would be greatly appreciated...

Danielle - posted on 09/29/2009

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Thankyou all so much for the help he finally had his first full nights sleep last night in his own bed 8 till 8 xx thankyou see how it goes from here now xx

Stacey - posted on 09/24/2009

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Just keep putting him back in bed, maybe sit by his door for a few nights while he is going to sleep, if you are persistent enough he should get the idea and give in within a few nights, upto a week, worked with my son, you just have to be strong and not give in, you may get hardly any sleep for a week, but think of the good nights' sleep you'll get after that. Good luck.

User - posted on 09/24/2009

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persistence it took us 4 1/2 years to get our 6 year old to even go to sleep and we still have the occasionally back sliding happens. All good night activity happens in his room we start a 1/2 hour before bed teeth we color for 15 minutes we read for 15 minutes. We cannot deviate or he is up a thousand time or goes to sleep on the couch instead.

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it could be because he is in a different place my daughter did the same thing when we moved but after a few weeks she got use to it.. i would let her fall asleep with me then put her in her room and at nap time she went in her room and they get use to it

Michelle - posted on 09/24/2009

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Maybe you should decorate his room woth his favorite character, get a new bedset, maybe a toddler bed and that may help. Make him want to be in his room. A night light may help at night. And if he has a tv in his room with a timer on it, maybe letting him whatch if till he drifts off would help.

Lisa Marie - posted on 09/24/2009

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im having the same problem wiv my 1 year 9 month old baby. he just wont go into his own bed. we stay wiv him until he falls asleep n see how he goes. but 2 tell the truth we av onli just started 2 put him in his own bed.

Julie - posted on 09/24/2009

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well it's been awhile sence mine were that little but i have a grand son that age so i would try spending play time in ther and nap times so he will love to be in there cause it's fun

Philippa - posted on 09/24/2009

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i had the very same prob when i moved into my new house i give her milk and i worm it up at night and in the day time put him in his room to play in his cot and stay in there with him then leave and come back i didnt find lettin her cry worked she got even more upset and afraid to be in there get something that plays soft music and and glow in the dark things u can stick on the wall and a night light that changes colour there great also dont leave the room when u go in at night to calm his down and after about 20 min u should be able to put him down it can be hard but it dose work givin his something that smells like u is also a great idea also dont be afraid to give him a bottle so calm him or his sother if he use's one he's just lookin for something firmiler and counftering best of look

Petra - posted on 09/24/2009

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What I did was... I let my daughter play in her room as much as she could during the day so she could get familiar and comfortable being in her room. I put her favorite toys in her bed, so she wouldn't feel so alone. When she goes to sleep we stay with her for 30 min.First she screamed and cried, but she understood finally that she has to stay in her crib. I know not every children are the same, but I thought it might would work for you too. Good luck! :)

Vickie - posted on 09/24/2009

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Once my son had graduated to a toddler bed, he would constantly get out of bed & climb into mine. I used to wait til he was asleep, get up, carry him back to his own bed & sometimes he would get right back out of bed & climb back into my bed.



Sometimes a child needs time to adjust to a new room and/or a new bed. I finally broke my son out of this by making sure he had a night light. Then I took him to buy a special stuffed animal of his choice for him to cuddle & sleep with every night. I would read to him or tell him a story before he fell asleep. I also kept reassuring him that my room was right near his, my door was always left open and that if he really needed me, I would be there in a flash. Plus I reminded him that our dog was always on guard in his room at night and he was well protected. This did the trick.

Stacey - posted on 09/24/2009

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I found that sitting with my son on his bed and patting him to sleep, then progressing to just sitting beside him with my hand on his back then not touching him... After a few weeks I was able to sit on the floor beside him (not on the bed) and then over about a month I moved further to the door and then spend about a week just outside his bedroom door!

He came out a few times and seeing me there meant that I was able to reinforce that I wasnt far. My son didnt start sleeping in his own bed till he was about 18 months and he moved from my bed to his own but it did take a long time and lots of interupted nights.... Just stick in there Danielle

Raushanah - posted on 09/24/2009

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Well my husband and I had a lot of experience with this. Wow the drama, lol No I'm kidding, but it will take some time. We started out with our kids in their own beds, from the first day they came home from the hospital. Well my son when he was about 13 months started to want us in there with him every night. When we would put him to bed he either slept on our chest, or in our arms. Then we would try to put him in his room but he would wake up. So we took turns, one day would be mine and the next my husband's. We would go in and pat his back(you could sing) and time it. The first time we would spend 15 minutes in there patting and singing. Then if he would cry again for us we would go back for 10 minutes. After a while he knew we were there and by the 4th time he would be off to sleep for good. This took about 2 weeks, but we did it.

Tonya - posted on 09/24/2009

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I have no advice to give you because my son is 4 and refuses to sleep in his room he will sleep in our room in the living room and even on the floor in his sisters room but will not sleep in his own room he will scream for hours if he wakes up and is in his bed yet my 11 month old sleeps in the same room through the night with no problems I haven't slept through the night without any interruptions or being kicked our hit or shoved in I don't know how long so if you get an idea that works please pass it along

Chandra - posted on 09/24/2009

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I too had the same problem with my daughter. when we had moved she was almost 12 months. I had to put a night light in her room, play soft musical music and put a baby gate up. No matter what they will cry from beign in there, but after a while they will fall asleep. For a while you may have to stay in the room with him to help him fall asleep then sneek out, just for him to get used to it. If you don't have a nightlight, keep a hall way light on so that way no scary "boogymen" will come out and freak him out more. I hope that something helps and you both get some sleep. Wish you luck.

Tamara - posted on 09/24/2009

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I had to put a tv.. with a dvd player so he could lay in his own bed and watch his spongebob movies before bed... I also bought a night light and a favorate stuffed toy or blanket... if he did get up to get in my bed i would walk him back to his room and tuck him back in.. after a couple of times of trying they give up and realise they like their room better anyway...

Katrina - posted on 09/24/2009

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i work in an office with 8 ped's docs..when my daughter wasnt sleeping through the night one of them gave me hell. She told me to leave her in her crib/room for 20 minutes at a time crying then go in a check and calm her down and repeat until she is asleep. you will have a few restless nights, but in the long run it truly works out for the best!

Desire - posted on 09/24/2009

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let hm adjust to the new place first and then try putting something that smeells like you in his crib so that he can have your scent and dont be afraid to let him cry himself to sleep

September - posted on 09/24/2009

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I think that with the move comes change and babies need time to adjust to the change. I would continue to encourage him to sleep in his own room. If he wakes up let him fall asleep with you and then once he does put him back in his room so that when he does wake up he is not in your bed. Give it time and he will get use to it. Good luck!

Ashley - posted on 09/24/2009

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put up a gate in his door so he doesnt feel alone but it keeps him in! good luck!

Ally - posted on 09/24/2009

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I have the same problem with our 2 year old. We have managed however to slowly change that and are atleast getting a few full nights sleep. We put soft playing music in his room (not loud) and a night light. It seems to be working, but be mindfull that it can take some time.

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