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Holly - posted on 03/12/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Long story but please bare with me. I REALLY need help on this. My husband travels for work. 2 weeks working 4 days home. I also work Monday thru Friday 7 to 4. My daughter is in an amazing daycare. She is 5 and just missed the cut off for school so now she was to wait until the fall of 2015. the last week she has been crying constantly for me to stay home with her. She doesn't want to go to daycare, she just wants to stay home with me. I have asked her if something is going on at daycare and she says no she just wants to spend time with me. That I need to call my boss and stay home. She doesn't do so good right away in the morning at daycare but by lunch she is fine. She is fine while she is with me until bed time and she asks if we get to stay home together tomorrow and I tell her no that she has daycare and I have work. Then it starts again. I don't know what to do. I don't want to give in and stay home with her for a day because that wont fix anything. Can ANYONE please help me with this?????????

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Michelle - posted on 03/13/2015

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I found my daughter began to dislike daycare at around 4 because she was too "old" for it. The were still trying to get her to nap during the day but she had stopped that at home since she was 2. She felt they were treating her like a "baby" (her words). Now that she is in school full time she is a lot happier to there after school.
I think she my just be bored and really needing to go to school.

Sarah - posted on 03/12/2015

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Even though it is a great facility, maybe she is just ready for increased challenge. Maybe Friday evening, when you are relaxed and she isn't thinking about going back ask her what does she enjoy the most, what does she like the least? Listen to her answers and talk it over with your husband.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/12/2015

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Well, first of all, you are not doing anything wrong at all! This is normal development, but it probably would be in her best interest to start pre-K. This way she is prepared for kindergarten. Also, it will be more of a challenge and keep her interest. She may just need to have that academic side to make her excited to go.

Good luck momma! Parenthood is hard.

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Holly - posted on 03/13/2015

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I agree! Thank you Michelle. My Husband and I discussed putting her in the summer programs so she is busy in the summer. Our daycare is great about taking the kids to swimming lessons, and the fun activities the school has. Hopefully things will be better the busier she is and then fall she will FINALLY be in school.

Holly - posted on 03/12/2015

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I really like that idea Sarah. I will definitely do that. If you have any more advice I would love to hear it.

Holly - posted on 03/12/2015

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BTW I do love the calendar idea. We will go get one this weekend and start that.

Holly - posted on 03/12/2015

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It is strictly daycare but they do a lot of fun projects all the time. I am very hands on with her. Ever weekend we do something just for her at least 1 night but that also has to be earned. If she had bad fits or was talking nasty, a total of 3x then that fun thing gets taken away. We do projects at least 3 nights a week. She loves learning so we play games just to learn math, simple things like this. My husband and I have talked about how maybe she should have gone to preschool because she is the oldest at daycare until the kids get out of school. Do you think this could be apart of it? I feel lost and unsure of what I need to do for her. She is my only child and I feel im doing something wrong.

Sarah - posted on 03/12/2015

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I agree that you need to just keep reassuring her and make drop off quick and cheerful. have you asked the staff if she seems bored? Is it strictly daycare or do they offer preschool as well? Maybe the two of you can get a desk calendar and for Saturday and/or Sunday she can draw a picture of something the two of you can do together. Something simple but fun, like paint each others nails or have a movie night. then each day at bedtime she can cross of the day that has just ended and visually see the progress toward the weekend.

Trisha - posted on 03/12/2015

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I haven't experienced this before, but I think you are doing the right thing by refusing to give in. Any mom's know how to handle this situation?

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