UnknownAlex - posted on 06/26/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )
Background: my long-term boyfriend and i live in a house that his dad owns (his friend just moved into our basement), and the rest of his family live in a house in front of ours.
Issue: My step-son is soon going to be living with us (well he's moving in the house up front with his bio-mom -she'll be moving in there once SS gets here-) and as happy as I am that he's coming, as each minute passes I start to get worried.
Worried that, as my SO said, he'll be spending a lot of time up in the front house.
I already get annoyed that we don't have the time we used to together (I've been pretty moody lately because of this). Don't get me wrong! I understand that his friend wanted a place to stay (which I agreed to thinking things would be different), and I'm all for him getting to spend as much time with his son as he can (my SS who is not three has been away since a few months before he turned one). I don't know how I'm going to handle having his friend, his friend's girl, his ex, and his son always there.
It's not like I didn't expect this when we got together, but I though his son would always be there, and we could build or relationship with SS, now, I'm just scared because everything is going to change so drastically so fast.
I'm not really asking a question I know, I just hate venting to my family and to my SO (he already knows this is hard for me), I just don't want to feel so alone. No-one I know faces the problem I do so even if they understand I think there's a limit that I may not have here.
Please, tell me if you're going/ have been through something similar, how did you handle your feelings?