Worst public tantrum stories!!

Claire - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

38

25

3

My 5 month old threw the biggest tantrum in a shopping centre today - screeching, arching her back, scratching my chest, everything you can think of!! (She was extremely overtired and also teething) It lasted about 20 minutes, and i was just wondering the worst experiences other mums have had...go on, make me feel better!!!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Charlene - posted on 04/22/2009

55

28

6

HHmmm well my guy will be ten next month and he still has meltdowns(good term for it) usually when he is overtired, or we have been very busy without down time or when he is getting sick. I never know when they will come always outta left field. One day his favorite toy breaks and he calmly and sadly throws it out then next day a page in a book is crinkled and KABOOM. When he was little he had a few tantrums in stores. Once, the first and worst had the screaming ,drop on the floor and kicking. I told him calmly that it was not acceptable and he would not get what he wanted. He kept going so I said see you later I have shopping to do and I walked away. I didn't go far before he came running to me 'Mommy don't leave me" so I asked him if he was ready to behave and he said yes. After that I always reminded him of it when we went shopping and that if he acts up I will walk away and not give it attention and the next time he will not be allowed to shop with me. Still to this day if he is going shopping with me I make it clear if he will be getting anything or not and what it may be (clothes, toys, shoes etc.) Now he has allowance money to use but I give him a 15 min. time limit (we live far from big stores and usually dont have alot of time) If he sees something else that he wants and starts to whine I shut it down real quick "If you ever have hopes of getting that toy, stop and think about you should do" So now he likes to carry a note pad and pen and write down things that he sees and would like. Doesnt mean he will get it but it gives them a chance to think about thier purchases and if it remains something they would like save for it or ask for it at Christmas or your B-day.

This conversation has been closed to further comments

18 Comments

View replies by

Sonya - posted on 03/26/2011

1

1

0

i had to go to the dmv and had my grandson alex with me he started throwing a tantrum and when i was disciplining him he bit my hand...it was very embarrassing for me cause my grandson was one of the children we all dread when we see them in the markets giving a hard time to the parents....my daughter doesnt like me disciplining alex or doesnt like my methods...im old school sorry....any suggestions that an old school nana may not know about and can try

Charlene - posted on 02/09/2011

55

28

6

Oh I can't believe someone would say they didn't think the child got enough love.

Rachel - posted on 02/08/2011

24

22

1

As a full time working single mum, I have to commute to work everyday and take my one yr old son with me to put him in nursery. Usually this is fine but one day he screamed all through the 15 min train journey and the 10 minute wait at the bus stop. I tried picking him up, giving him a drink or snack to distract him buy he threw everything I gave him on the floor and carried on. Everyone was staring and tutting and it carried on during the bus journey so I tries to ignore it. Finally this old women turns round and says 'he wants to be picked up!' I explained politely i had tried that and besides, I wanted him strapped in his pushchair while he was out of control in a moving vehicle. She then said 'it's's clear your child does not get much love!' I nearly burst into tears from anger and told her to mind her own bloody buisness. I still cringe when i remember that.

Charlene - posted on 04/28/2009

55

28

6

I have heard that about headstrong kids too. When my guy was a toddler I saw part of a tv show(wish I knew what it was) but this expert was saying that the child that stands up to and questions thier parents and the same ones that stands up and says no to drugs, smoking, peer pressure. I try to keep that in mind when he is talking back to me and questioning EVERYthing I say or do.

Claire - posted on 04/22/2009

38

25

3

Hahahaha i love all the stories, thanks so much for sharing :) I know i have a lifetime of tantrums ahead, but i'm glad to hear the smirks that other mothers were giving me were smirks of "Poor thing, been there, done that" and not "What a bad parent!!" I also appreciate the comment that headstrong kids grow up to be the most successful - well if that's the case, my little Scarlet is going to be a STAR! xx

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2009

275

16

38

ahhh...lol!! should keep this post going....its sooo funny! i was at a huge big shopping centre last year with all 6 of my kids, my sister and her two girls...was going okay then my 5 yr old (who has aspergers) lost it, there were just too many people, too much going on and he started screaming....the rest of them kept walking and i sat down with him to give him a hug and calm him down (something he will usually respond to pretty well). it was all going okay, we were just about there and this old man stopped and said to him "thats no way to behave at a shopping centre, young man..." in a rather loud unpleasant voice and walked away thinking he'd fixed it. well, not really...my son started all over again and was screaming at this man to go away because he was friggen ugly....soon everyone was standing around just watching so i asked if there was anyone that had anything else to add....suddenly they were all really busy....all i could do was to stay there and calm him down AGAIN. i don't mind that kids crack it when we are out, what i mind is inconsiderate people who can't offer anything constructive so they just stare or shake their heads....what are we as mums meant to do, start screaming back at our irate kids...? gotta laugh about it...and i always make sure when i see others dealing with cranky kids that i smile and say to them well, at least its not mine today....or something positive anyway....!

Cathy - posted on 04/22/2009

168

6

16

My older son was the culprit for tantrums, more than my youngest son. He would throw his head back and let out this ear-piercing scream that would turn heads for miles - literally the entire stretch of the mall would be shuddering when he let loose.

I've had to carry him kicking and screaming so many times, I lost count. But luckily it all passes and they move out of that phase...until they become teenagers. Oyy !!

Amie - posted on 04/22/2009

6,596

20

412

oh god.. this one isn't even about my kids. For the most part I have well behaved kids but that's mostly just cause of how strict we are with them. My mom thinks we're too hard on them, then I look at my teenage siblings who STILL throw tantrums from time to time and think bite me. LOL!
Anyway.... I used to babysit for a friend when our oldest was a year old. Her son (who was 4 at the time) was a friggin nightmare!! This is a kid who had no qualms about throwing fists, biting, pulling hair, etc... I even caught him with a pillow over his little sister's head once while he was sitting on it!! I swear this kid was the devil incarnate. His mom didn't help things at all. She was too scared to discipline him thinking social services would take him. What a load!
So we went out the one day together to do our grocery shopping. He had a meltdown, completely, he went limp, fell to the floor and started punching his mom in the leg because she wouldn't buy him bubbles at that very second. She did nothing, she stood there with everyone staring at us and this little terror. I finally had enough and got down and told him to STOP IT. I had to yell because you couldn't hear anything above his screaming. He listened to me since after babysitting him for a few months and knowing he had to follow the rules with me or he'd be stuck in time out and no I would not give in, the longer you fight it the longer you get to sit there. He didn't like that at all. His mom goes to me Amie how come he listens to you? Well duh... rules and boundaries for kids and make sure to enforce them and those things won't happen. She didn't do it at all so he figured he could do this and she would cave, which she did every time. Bleh... Granted some tantrums do happen, mine aren't angels, they still have the odd meltdown but nothing like that! They do it when their tired and want to just go home and it hasn't involved screaming, throwing themselves down or anything like that since they were very small. They sit there and whine which irritates me but at least I don't have a kid whose distracting the entire store. Been there done that so glad it's over. lol.

Trina - posted on 04/22/2009

113

8

16

well, my daughter is a little older than everyone else's kids here (when I say a little, I mean leaps and bounds - she's 10 1/2! lol) But she still has tantrums nonetheless. The absolute worse that I have ever encountered in her entire life happened just last year. She had gone to cub camp for the weekend and we were just arriving to pick her up. I guess she had had a horrible time (it was a clean-up camp - where they get all the troops together to clean up their grounds and the kids camp for free, she was expecting more fun, less work) and didn't sleep much (what kid does at camp?). She came up and I hugged her, but I guess that set her off. she started screaming to let her go then stormed off. I asked her to pack up her stuff, and she lost it! Screaming at the top of her lungs that her life sucks and everybody hates her and why can't everyone just leave her alone, the whole time wandering aimlessly, picking stuff up and throwing it. She screamed so loud and for so long that she actually lost her voice! The worst part? It wasn't just our group that witnessed this - there were 26 troops there and all their parents were arriving for pickup during her 1/2 hour long tantrum, staring at us as my husband and I tried to calm her down.

While she's not a stranger to having tantrums, this viciousness of this particular one was so out of character for her that I had to dig real deep to find the cause. I found out later that there were other issues involved and pulled her out of cubs.

Emily - posted on 04/22/2009

1,163

13

188

Five month olds don't really tantrum- wait til the toddler years! Luckily my kids were not big tantrum throwers. One time (last weekend) we were crossing the street at a cross walk and Ava was pushing a doll in a toy stroller. there wasn't much time to get across the road so I picked her up along with the stroller. Well, she was having none of that. She arched her back tried to jump out of my arms and flailed around kicking and screaming, "Me walk! Me walk! Wahhhhh!" I thought that when we got to the other side of the road she'd recover when she was able to push the stroller down the sidewalk. Nope! She tried to push that thing back across the street. By this time the light had turned green for the oncoming traffic. So, basically, I had to push the button. Keep her contained and out of the street until we got the walk signal. Let her push the stroller back across the street. Push the button again. Get the walk signal...again. Let her push the stroller back to where we were. The whole process took an extra ten minutes but she smiled up at me and said, "Love you, Mommy." when it was all over. So, in the long run it was worth not having to drag a crying two year old down the road along with a baby stroller and ruin our whole day out over something as stupid as crossing the street. This older man saw the whole thing and he came up to me after it was over and said in a really drawn out southern accent, "Ma'am, you have a lot of patience." Which, I don't really so that also made me feel good.

Teyaka - posted on 04/22/2009

278

18

86

My sons and I were in the clinic waiting for the perscriptions to get filled. My oldest likes to wonder around and assert his independence and play with other little kids that he sees and flirts with the ladies in the waiting area. So I let him. Well, the sliding door slid open and my oldest took off. Needless to say I had to chase him with my youngest in his carseat on my arm. After that I decided to utlize the playroom that the clinic has. Everything was going good till it was time to get the perscriptions. My oldest decided to take off numerous times and when I caught him and brought him back to me, he would become dead weight and scream at the top of his lungs. (To understand the scream, its really high pitch like the horror movie scream). So I would let him go and he would lay on the floor for a little then get up and do it all over again. Once I got the perscription and started walking to the door he decided that he didn't want to walk anymore. So, he fell out screaming and kicking. I had to pick him up and carry him under one arm, keep the youngest in the other arm, and balance the perscription in my hand. The whole way to the car my oldest kicked and screamed like I was trying to kidnap him. He didn't stop until I started the car and was half way home.

Kate CP - posted on 04/22/2009

8,942

36

758

Well, my daughter was recently the flower girl in a close friend's wedding. Everything was going great until she saw the dance floor. Apparently she loves to dance. She "danced" (read: ran in circles on the dance floor) for about 2-3 hours. We finally decided it was time to go and as we walked out to the car she had a major meltdown. She kicked me and her father. She bit me, scratched me (raked my face), and clawed holes into my arms and hands. It was a friggin' NIGHTMARE. She was ramped up for the next hour-just fighting and screaming.

As a side note, she had just had eustachian tubes put in two days before and was still getting over an ear infection. We shouldn't have stayed out as long as we did. :/

Kerry - posted on 04/22/2009

31

15

9

wow! I have had so many of these - we went through a stage where our son was throwing paddies all the time - we later found out that it was down to blackcurrant! In the supermarket one time he started a screaming paddy and started knocking stuff off the shelf - my partner picked him up and he kept shouting "stop hruting me daddy - you're making me cry!" little so and so!!!



Kerry www.southwestmummies.co.uk

Tracy-ann - posted on 04/22/2009

54

13

12

also i was reding an article for children who are head stong.It means they will go far in life and will never let anything stand in there way.so look out world here they come.lol

[deleted account]

My darling 20mth old daughter had a major meltdown justt the other day while we were shopping! During her outburst, she got underneath a table in a store and refused to come out! The girls that worked at the store were angels and helped me to calm her down. I try to stay calm and reassure my daughter that she is okay. When I get nervous or upset is when people will not stop staring! I realize that the initial reaction to a child screaming is to look, but to keep staring....it ticks me off! I just smile and dare anyone to make a crude comment!! LOL

Tracy-ann - posted on 04/22/2009

54

13

12

well i have 2 boys 3 and 2 they both decided that they were gonna run through the wal-mart tried picking them up and well melt down i had the 2 over my shoulder kicking and screaming through the whole store till finally i got out which seemed like forever.you are not the only one and it won't be the last sorry i know that's not very encouraging but i've been told that it does get better.Other parents that see these things sympatize because they have been through it .the people who give the dirty looks are people with no kids which totaly don't know where were coming from so let they sneer there day will come:)take care

Jane - posted on 04/22/2009

6

14

2

where do i start...i was potty training my eldest son and he wet himself at my sisters, so she stuck him in a t-shirt. which was ok, but when i got home and opened my frunt door he had a poo on the kerb outside in frunt of 7 neighbours...another time he ripped down my top on the bus and my boobs fell out...looking back you have gotta laugh about it all as kids will be kids.

hope this makes you feel better

jane xx

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms