Brandy - posted on 03/29/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have been divorced for about 3 years. We have joint custody of our 7yr old son, with me having him 70% of the time, his dad 30%. I have always been the provider financially even when we were married. I'm in the mortgage industry so my career took a nose dive this last year and I've taken an 80% cut in my income. I have been dating a very successful level headed man that lives in another state for the last year. We met through work and he has a very lucrative high paying job so it would be silly for him to leave that and move up here with my job being practically non-existent. He is an amazing guy and is great with my son. I would work with him and we would get married. We've been trying to work with my ex to come to an agreement with our son and I to moving to Texas (we're currently in Idaho), and him staying with him during Summers and splitting Holidays. Understandably, he doesn't want to agree to letting his son move, but also doesn't want to step up and pay any child support. I've been told by several attorneys the only way it could happen is if he agrees or screws up really bad. The only option now on the table is for me to keep our son during the Summers, and to leave him here during school year. I could keep my house and come stay here with him for a month and go back to Texas for a month and so on during the school year. If I knew I only had to do that for a few years than we could eventually move back or my son move down there, I would probably be ok, but there's no guarantee it would be temporary. Am I being selfish if I decided to move and has anyone else been in a similar situation?