Would it be wrong to stop breastfeeding and go to the bottle?

Nikita - posted on 11/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hello, I am a first time mom to a 6 day old beautiful baby boy. i started to breastfeed from day one, yes i heard the stories of how much it hurts but i still wanted to give it a try because i know that breast milk is the best milk but honestly this sucks, it is very painful. it makes me so emotional because i feel like i am failing my son because i want to start him on the bottlei feel like i am failing him because im giving up, i try to seek advice from my family and friends that have kids, my two older sisters have kids and they didnt not breastfeed and their kids are just fine, my best friend has a son and he is fine. my sons father is the all naturla kind of person even thought he eat junk food and fast food all the time he just want what is best for our son but he doesnt have to go thought the pain that i am going through, he gives me good advice he was the one who told me about this website. i guess my whole point is would it be wrong of me to start giving my son the bottle and stop breastfeeding? i could really use some good advice and help so i can stop stressing and killing myself over this. i love my son and want all the right things for him. im afraind that by stopping he will get sick or something happen tp him, its like im scaring myself into breastfeeding him when in the back of my mind i know i want to put him on the bottle. i feel like i cant enjoy my son because im so worried about this whole breastfeeding thing. i am a big worrier and i tend to over think things i could really use some good advice and would greatly appreicate it. :-) Thank you.

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Nikita - posted on 11/13/2012

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Thank you everyone for your advice. i am going to keep trying for a few more weeks, the pain has eased up and its a little more easy to handle. Yes i have spoken with a lactation specialist while i was in the hospital and yes they can be a bit pushy but helpful.. but again thank you

Kim - posted on 11/10/2012

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You wouldn't be a bad thing if you switched to bottle feeding. Have you tried talking to a lactation specialist? If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. If you can't stand the pain then your son may not get enough food. Either way, you will be looking at the best interest of your son, you're not a "failure" if it doesn't work out.

Dove - posted on 11/10/2012

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It wouldn't be wrong to bottle feed, but I personally think you should give it a bit more time if you can. The first 1-6 weeks (depending on the nursing pair) are usually the worst. Have you spoken to a lactation consultant/counselor person? Some of them can be pushy (so I've heard), but they can also offer excellent advice and support.



If you really want to stop, go ahead, but I can almost guarantee (though certainly not be totally positive) that if you give it a couple more weeks and get a professional in on the scene... things will get a lot better soon.



Hang in there!! Being a new mom is a tough time no matter how you're feeding your kid. ♥

S. - posted on 11/10/2012

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I believe it's not for everyone and you have given it a go and you have given your baby the best start you can. I don't believe anyone should beat themselves up for stopping. I breastfeed all 3 of my girls none of them for a real long time but my youngest was just 2 weeks old I just couldn't handle it, I didn't enjoy it, it's wasn't relaxing, it was stressful she's 2 uears old now and no worst off for me stopping so early. She is bright, healthy and normal.

My cousin made her self ill because she "failed" at breastfeeding please don't do that to your self if your happy your baby will be happy, you are not failing it just isn't for you. :)

Liz - posted on 11/10/2012

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I think you should give it a little more time. Yeah, breastfeeding can be extremely painful, especially in the beginning, but eventually it will get easier. Have you tried using lanolin? That stuff works wonders, I tell you! You could also try getting some advice from a lactation consultant. That being said, if you are dead set against continuing to breastfeed, then it is definitely better to quit now, instead of getting upset and frustrated about it. There are tons of moms out there who choose not to breastfeed at all. Don't make yourself feel guilty if you are going to quit. Bottle feeding is not going to scar your child for life :) Good luck!

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