Would you allow your child to make mistakes on his homework if he or she thinks it is right?

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I was helping my 4rth grader do his math homework last night. He made a couple of mistakes and when I tried to correct him he refused and insisted that this is how it should be done. So I let him do it the way he wants it and I warned him that there will be consequences since he did not want to take the time to read the instructions. My husband on the other hand kept arguing with me that I should not allow him to do what he wants. It is a graded homework. But he has a lot of good grades so allowing him to make mistakes and learn from them is to me more important than scoring an A. What would you do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2013

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I actually took a refresher course of pre algebra, and specifically told the instructor that I was doing it so that I could understand how math was being taught now, versus how I was taught. It helped immensely when my kids started middle school, because they do teach differently now than they did then!

Sarah - posted on 10/09/2013

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I agree with Shawnn and Amy. If you are told how to do it and don't believe that way is correct what good is it to change the answer. You learn nothing. Homework is meant for you to practice and learn. If he believes his way is right then let him figure out what he did wrong. He will learn more that way then he will by just changing the answer to please his parents.

As Amy stated that sometimes teachers teach kids different ways of doing things then what we were taught. I found this to be especially true in math. A few of the new ways I get and understand, but there are a few that I still can't get even after having a 10th grader and a 6th grader. There are many times when my 6th grader is confused I ask my 10th grader to help her because he has learned the new ways and can actually help her understand it. I know in some of their homework it was meant to only do the problems a certain way the teacher taught it. It is hard as a parent to be able to help them, but having two kids go through that learning I will say the new ways do help. My kids are both very quick with their math skills and the new ways seem to help them excel faster then the old ways did. They have even changed how they teach math in high school. For home work they watch a video of the teacher explaining how to do the problems. Then in class they do the problems. This way the teacher is there to help with any questions. Kind of backwards, but it works.

Amy - posted on 10/09/2013

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If my son is going to argue with me over his homework then I'm going to let him do it wrong and he can deal with the consequences at school. And I would like to add sometimes they teach kids to do things a certain way and as a parent we may know a different way but it's not the "right way for what is being taught". Even if that's not the case I would still let him do it wrong.

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Thank you ladies. I feel better about my decision now. You are right about the learning method. Even worst I was not educated in this country. So everything is different to me. But this teacher in particular told me that it is good to know more than one way to solve a problem. On this one though my problem with him is that he was in a hury to finish his homework and did not want to read instructions!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2013

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He cannot learn unless he makes mistakes. If he will not follow the instructions, the teacher needs to address that with him.

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