would you feel hurt by this

Jen - posted on 01/12/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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i live with the inlaws and thye have pictures of all the family n grandchildren but not one pic of my 2 year old son she uses all the frames to put more n more pics of her 3rd grandchild up whos 3

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Louise - posted on 01/12/2011

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I would buy a frame and get a picture and wrap it up and give it to her as a present. Then she will have no choice to put it up! I have to say grandparents do have their favourites although they swear blind they don't. Annoying it is!

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I would be a little hurt but remember she see's your son EVERY DAY! If it really bothers you just ask her and don't make a big deal out of it.

Stifler's - posted on 01/12/2011

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My grandma sees my sister and other cousins all the time. That's why my wedding picture and other pictures are all over her fridge and walls.

Alecia - posted on 01/12/2011

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we do family pictures right before christmas and give the grandparents big ones that are framed...then they have to put them up! but my mil loves pictures of all her family and even has rileys sonograms framed and in the living room :) though she does tend to favor her other granddaughter slightly more, but we are also living with them right now and they only see the other one once a week for a few hours. plus u do have more of a connection with older children...its hard not to when they've been on the earth longer (like Sohpie's Choice). Just give them some framed pictures. if they purposely dont put them up then i would be hurt for sure..but u gotta try first!

Jen - posted on 01/12/2011

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dont get me wrong i love the 3 year old to death n his mom n dad am perfect n so in love its sick lol. as well as not having photos eveery 30 mins in the day the inlaws will mention the 3 year old name wheres so n so to my two year old n his looking round where my cousin getting all excited she will tell my son shout so n so when his not here she also gets her phone n guess whos on the screen the 3 year old n my son wil go so n so name there was once my son was calling himself tht name not his own alex.. when the 3 year old mom has her baby theres gna be more of her baby which fair enough but i kinda feel i need to get in there first just one pic on the wall of my baby boy i dont want loads spread aroud the room i dont care if its in the corridor with the old photos just a pic of my boy with his family members

Stephanie - posted on 01/12/2011

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Yeah I would be hurt. My husband, daughter and I live with my father-in-law and he has pictures of our daughter everywhere. It's just normal, even to live with the grandparent for them to have pictures no matter how often you see them. Like other posters have said get a nice frame or two with pics of your child, maybe they will get a clue?!

Kat - posted on 01/12/2011

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i understand and even though my girls were put to the back in my parents house at least they have the in laws. My oldest isn't my husbands child but his family has taken her from day one just like he did. They have both our girls pictures in there houses and my father in law loves my oldest daughter... He calls to talk to her and he goes and sees her at school... He and his wife are so wonderful to both of my girls and my husband's mother is the same way she loves them... So i understand how hurt someone could be by this and hopefully buying her the frame will solve the promblem

Jen - posted on 01/12/2011

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thanks everybody i was thinking the same i will get the a photo n frame for her bday or watever. i ddint actual think she probley doesnt see the point cus we live with her she see the 3 year old 3 times a month if that his mother is due in two weeks with her 2nd baby so shes abit busy to worry about the 3 year old coming here. its still upsets me my son deserves a place on her wall too so i will do the gift idea.

Kat - posted on 01/12/2011

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I feel your pain, when I lived in the same state as my family ( I now live in a different state) they had pictures of my girls up everywhere in the house and now they have pictures of my brothers kids everywhere(he still lives in state) and my girls pictures are upstairs in one room only... it's like i'm being punshied for moving out of state so for christmas I brought them frames and put pictures of my girls in them and gave them to them and they had the frames up the next day....

Hayley - posted on 01/12/2011

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I'd give her a photo of your son as a "gift" put it in a frame as well. If she doesn't put it up you can innocently ask " have you put that picture up yet?"

Helen - posted on 01/12/2011

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I can understand why you would feel hurt by this, but as its been said she sees your son everyday so maybe just doesnt think to put pictures up. As Louise and Lissa have said, buy a nice frame with a picture of your son in it and then she'll have to have it up.
If it makes you feel any better, my mum has more pictures up round her house of my ex-husbands children, than she does of her own grandson!!

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2011

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How often does she see the 3 year old? She sees her son daily, she doesnt need a reminder of what he looks like.

Lissa - posted on 01/12/2011

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I agree with Louise put a picture in a nice frame and give it as a present. Is it possible as you live with them therefore she sees your son all the time that it hasn't occurred to her to put up a picture of him?

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