Would you let a male family member or friend change your baby girls nappy or toddlers nappy if they ask? If they then say why domt you trust me? I say no (because i dont trust men.

Maria - posted on 08/26/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I say no thanks i dont mind changing her nappy myself. I also wonder ladies if i should only change her nappy and take her to the potty in private as i want to respect her. As in im being asked not to take her to the bathroom to use her potty or do her nappy as it means im not very trusting. ( i only change her nappy and only her gran and female childminder does.

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Gena - posted on 08/27/2013

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I also always changed my son in the bathroom when we went out or at friends house i would ask them if i may use the bathroom to change.As for anyone else changing diapers i have never been asked accept from a female friend and i helped her.I wouldnt let just anybody change diapers.

Maria - posted on 08/27/2013

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She tries to run about naked these days and runs away laughing when i try and get her dressed and bites my stomach or kick boxes me when i try and put her nappy on and laughs so she doesnt mind her privacy. But im wary when i have to change her in the public for example the woods or by the pond where there are no toilets and try and change her fast if theres people about. I havent taken the travel potty out and about but i might try that though its quicker to change her nappy and give her privacy if in woodland area than have her exposed trying to sit on potty. Downside is that she used to be better at using her potty. So looks like i should always take the travel potty with me. So back to what a male family member said it was " really ive seen it all before with my kids why do u have to take her all the way to the bathroom.?" When i was going to chsnge her nappy. ( it was only about 13 steps away to go to bathroom)

Denikka - posted on 08/26/2013

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After about a year old, I always take my kids to the bathroom to change their diapers anyways. It's part of my potty training strategy to get them to associate a wet/dirty diaper with the bathroom.
Before then though, I would have no problem changing them when they need to be changed, where ever that might happen to be within my own house. When I'm out in public, I take them to the bathrooms and when I'm at friend's or family's houses, I might change them in the open depending on how comfortable I am in that particular house (or if it's outside in the backyard or whatever), but I would at least take them to an out of the way corner. It's really not as much about privacy and respect for the child, they're too small to have any hang ups about nudity, but it's more out of respect for the adults. Gross diapers are bad enough when *I* have to change them. I just don't think others would feel like they would want to be around and close when I'm changing my kids.

As for letting male family or close male friends change my daughters diaper, well...it really hasn't come up much. Except for my partner (the kids dad), anytime there's a diaper to be changed, that kid is shoved off to me or daddy :P It's rare that someone else wants to/offers to change the kids.
Their uncle has taken them for a few hours, and diaper changes have come up. My daughter is now just over 2.5yrs and just got potty trained (still some accidents, but no more diapers) He's changed her when he's been out with her, and he's changed my son when he's been out him (when my son was still in diapers, he's 4.5 now and been potty trained over a year). I never felt it was a big deal. I've never had any questions in my mind or concerns in my heart about inappropriate behavior and if the kids are out with their uncle or aunt, then who else is going to change them? I kinda take what opportunities are offered. if someone else wants to change a dirty bum, I let them.

I have both boys and a girl, so I guess I see it from both points. I have no problem letting a known female change my son, and I regularly change him. And, with knowing the male, I have no problem with that person changing my daughter and her dad regularly changed her while she was in diapers.


For me, it's much more about the adult and how comfortable I am with them than it is about the children's privacy. They don't care about being naked and would run around as little nudists most of the time if I let them. It's doesn't occur to them to cover their bodies for modesty. Clothing is more decoration and function than anything else.
But if I EVER had ANY doubt about anyone, male OR female, you can guarantee that my entire attitude would change towards them and my kids would be kept at arms length at absolute closest.
As for being ASKED to change your daughter in public areas (like the living room), that would raise questions and red flags for me. That just seems weird.

Maria - posted on 08/26/2013

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As in im being asked not to change her nappy in bathroom but in living room as it means im not very trusting.

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