Would You Let Your Daughters Date an Older Guy?

John - posted on 09/25/2015 ( 17 moms have responded )

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And by that same token, is it normal to like younger girls? I am almost 20 and yet I really like younger girls who are like 15-16. Is this wrong? I've been too embarrassed to ask anyone in person. The reason I like them is because I just find them so much cuter, both physically and emotionally. The former because they're so petite, the latter because they have such happy, bubbly personalities.

As mothers, where would you draw the line regarding the age difference in dating? Answer honest, would you allow a male my age to date a younger daughter around 15-16? Do you think there is anything wrong with such age gaps provided that there is no sexual activity? (I am a virgin till I get married).

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Jodi - posted on 07/09/2016

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"So, no it's not jailbait as Shawnn so blatantly put it."
- This person said 15-16, not just 16. So firstly, in many places 16 is not the age of consent anyway (some it is, but others it isn't) and secondly, a 15 year old is jailbait anywhere. I've actually reported a family to child protection before for allowing an 18 year old to date their 14 year old daughter when I know they were having sex.

"But parents can't overthrow the law."
Yes, yes they can. If my child lives in MY home, under MY roof, living off MY income paying for their food, heat, electricity, then as a parent, I absolutely CAN veto what the law says.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/09/2016

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Gonna love it when your kids reach that teen stage. Hopefully you don't get the privilege of raising a boy

Jodi - posted on 07/09/2016

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But Shawnn was referring to 15-16, not just 16. So her comment was actually correct.

Chasity - posted on 07/09/2016

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Jodi
I clearly said where I live and at 15 no one can legally consent which is why I only elaborated on the 16 year old part.

Chasity - posted on 07/09/2016

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Please Dove, I just happened to see this post and thought I'd put my two cents in.
You don't need to pay attention, you choose to lol.

Dove - posted on 07/09/2016

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Bumping up an almost year old post... You're just looking for attention here, aren't you? lol

I can not WAIT until you have a teenage daughter. Please come back here and share your words of wisdom once you've gained another decade of parenting experience.

Chasity - posted on 07/09/2016

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Where I live it's perfectly legal to have a relationship with someone 16 or older. So, no it's not jailbait as Shawnn so blatantly put it. Although, the parents may not approve. But parents can't overthrow the law.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2015

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Linked with your post about porn I agree that you need to talk about your feelings to someone . Between your attraction to teens and the belief that pron will be your only sexual outlet because you are so unworthy of a relationship with any woman, you have some big issues to tackle to set yourself up for a healthy relationship and sex life.

Dove - posted on 09/28/2015

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No way in hell would I let you around my daughters at all... forget abut 'dating' them. You also can not say that all younger girls are petite or that they all have happy, bubbly personalities.... The fact that you even think like that is a high indicator that you would benefit from some professional help.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2015

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Teenage girls aren't 'just bubbly and happy' ... they are going through lots of changes like puberty and middle school/high school issues(that depends on where you live). Mostly, I wouldn't let you near my daughter although she's 13 and not 15-16 yet.
Not all of them are petite, some are short, tall, and middle, etc.
Also, no, even if no sexual activities. My child has friends that r both girls and guys, but doesn't hang out w/ anyone more than 2 years off of her age in both female and males ... unless it's a relative or family friend, I wouldn't personally let her hang out w/ anyone at 19 and 20. I know I sound overprotective and ridiculous ... but going to the mall alone? NO. Staying up super late? NO. She stays up late sometimes, but that's at HOME and not going out and coming home at 12:00, etc. This is a parent's veiwpoint.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2015

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TBH, I'm the mom of boys, and they're not allowed to date more than 18 months outside their age. (well, my 21 YO can date whomever he wants, within legal limits.

At this point, you cannot legally date anyone under the age of 18, regardless of age of consent. You are an adult. a 15-16 YO for you is jailbait. You realize, do you not, that you are attracted to younger girls because your mental development is more on par with theirs, right? Men's brains develop differently. Women mature much earlier, which is why you feel a 'connection'.

Get with girls your own age, or that are at least adults.

Sarah - posted on 09/25/2015

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I think this is something you should discuss with your pastor. This girl is going to get older and lose the cuteness that you find appealing now. What then?

John - posted on 09/25/2015

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I do find women my age appealing. Just to a lesser extent than younger girls. They are not my preference. Again I like younger girls simply because I find them cuter. They tend to have a happier personality which in turn makes me happier. That and there was one particular girl in mind--a 15 year old who attends the same church as me (we're Russian Orthodox). Is there something wrong with me? Again I wouldn't have sex with them because I know it's against the law, and because it's against my religion.

Sarah - posted on 09/25/2015

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I would not permit my 16 year old to spend time alone with a man 5 years her senior. She just does not have the judgement or maturity to handle a relationship like that, sex or no sex. Why do you not find women your own age appealing?

Michelle - posted on 09/25/2015

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I wouldn't let you near my daughter, the reasons you have given make you sound like a pedophile.
It's because you are saying you like ALL younger girls, not just fallen in love with 1. That to me is wrong.
To me it's not the age difference, it's what you are saying about what you like about younger girls.

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