Would you let your mom take your 2 year old?

Andrea - posted on 05/12/2011 ( 34 moms have responded )

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My mom wants to take my 2 year old for a month she lives in one part of the country i live in the other so that means she will fly with her there and bring her back I am 50/50 on the idea i dont know what to do please help

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K. - posted on 05/14/2011

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I let my two girls visit my mom for a month. They were 18 months and 3 at the time. While I missed them terribly they had a blast down there with grandma. And I got some quality time with the husband. Now they're 3 and 5 and she wants to take them for another month this summer. I'm for it again, but know darn well that after the first week I won't know what to do with myself. But they'll be having fun with their 5 cousins and two aunts who live around the block from my mom as well.

Merry - posted on 05/14/2011

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The longest I'd let my 2 year old be away from me is about 5 hours.

Yes hours.

No way in hell I'd let my 2 year old stay away from me for days. There isn't even words to describe my thoughts at him being gone for weeks.

And a month!?!?!

Ok, your kid your choice, but rest assured there's plenty of moms who wouldn't even consider a month away from their toddler.



I just had my second baby this past Tuesday, one of the big reasons we chose to have her born at home was because I'd never be ok with my two year old spending a night away from me while I was in the hospital.

Even now my husband took my son to the store and left me home with the baby and I'm missing him tons! He has only been gone an hour and a half but I want him back home!

For me there's little to no benefit of alone time without my kids, when they sleep I get a break but when they are awake I am not able to just let him go off without me and enjoy myself too much. Yeah I enjoy going to a movie with hubby alone, or eating a meal out without the toddler, but I never completely relax, I never forget about him and enjoy myself totally. There's always a sadness to any activity that takes me away from my son!



So obviously you don't need our permission to do it, but you are not unreasonable to refuse, that's a really really extreme amount of time IMO.

Rachael - posted on 05/14/2011

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i would if i rearly trusted my mum.i have never had that opatunity take the offer an enjoy the break.

Blackwood - posted on 05/13/2011

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Sorry, but I wouldn't want anyone taking my son for 1 months anywhere, not saying it's a bad thing, it's just not my thing. I would wonder, also how will your child react being away from you for a month in a new place with someone he doesn't see often. How about his rountines, you wondering how he is doing, does she know what you would like or not like your child to eat? How about behaviour, does she know what you expect or don't expect from your child? There will be people you don't know around your child. Why doesn't she stay with you for a month and you can visit with her? Again, if someone is comfortable with it, great,but not me.

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Tah - posted on 05/14/2011

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Firstly Laura..Congrats...secondly..we know you have strong reason behind why you hold so tight to your son, but I'm sure she won't forget about her.....you just get a little break and the child gets some great experiences and memories with other people that love them as well...

Tah - posted on 05/14/2011

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Heck yeah, sure would, children deal with being away for a month fine, they hear your voice..send some pictures, they are with grandam being spoiled, you get free time for you and the husband...why not I say, I wouldn't keep her home because I couldn't handle it, if you miss her too much, you go get her....

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Never. 2 is way to young for a separation that long. I wouldn't even let my 20 months old staying anywhere else over night. The distance would wreck my head, too. What if something happens or your child is not adjusting well? How long would it take you to get there? Can't even think about it. No no no.

Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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Heck no! Not for a month at age two...a couple of days at most! My main concern would be that of your child. That's a huge change and disruption in her life for such an extended period of time. After that much time away, her adjustment to you and normal life wouldnt be ea

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/14/2011

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I agree that 2 weeks would be enough, and even a week would be hard. Just tell her you'd miss him too much and would feel so weird with him being gone a month :)

September - posted on 05/13/2011

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I don't think I could be apart from my son for that long, so no unless I was going with him. Maybe if he was older but he's only 2.5 and still my baby ♥

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/13/2011

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I think I would be very uncomfortable for that length of time at such a young age. How often do they see eachother? Why doesn't your mom go stay with you for a month instead?

Laura - posted on 05/13/2011

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For me a month is too long. They have been away for a few days to a week but I could never do a month. If you can, and you trust your mother then go for it but it's too long for me.

Ashley - posted on 05/13/2011

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If I didn't live near my mother, yes, I would let her get my son for a period of time, but not for a month!! Maybe a week, but I'd still go crazy without him!

Shoug - posted on 05/13/2011

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Hi all,
umm i think its too long ,,cuz he is just 2 ! so he can afford couple of days or a week for maximum,,i have heard that form a specalist doctor in kids psychologist ...

Bonnie - posted on 05/13/2011

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If she is going to come to you to get her and fly back, why can't your mom just stay where you are for awhile. That is way too long for a young child to be away IMO. Not only would I miss my kids more than anything, but i'm pretty sure they would miss me and their daddy and maybe even have problems with it.

Sherri - posted on 05/13/2011

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I personally could never be away from my child for more than a few days I can't even fathom a month. So hands down my answer would be No. The longest I have ever been away from my older two was one week and I wasn't sure if I would make it. I don't think the problem is that it is your mom but just the sheer length of time away from your child.

Alecia - posted on 05/13/2011

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i think 2 weeks is prbly good for a 2 yr old. i know that i couldnt be without my 2 yr old for a month....geez, idk what id do with myself!! lol but it all depends on how comfortable u are with it. i couldnt do it...for selfish reasons, yes, but she is my daughter. like i said, id be alright with 2 weeks bcuz grandparent relations are very important. as he gets older id increase the amount of time and maybe at like 4-5 he could stay for a mnth

Stifler's - posted on 05/13/2011

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I can understand like older kids going for a month... but my 2 year old... no. He would grow too much.

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I wouldn't want to be away from my kids that long. I don't think any harm would be done from them being gone that long...I'd just miss them terribly. If you can handle that, then go for it. Grandparent relationships are incredibly important.

Amber - posted on 05/12/2011

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My family travels too...as does my child. I just go with or it's for a shorter period. As he gets older, that will change.
I was just saying we weren't comfortable with a month, not to not travel.

Lisa - posted on 05/12/2011

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Yep, in a heartbeat. If the kiddo got homesick, it would just be understood the trip may be cut early.

Nicole - posted on 05/12/2011

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I agree...I don't see anything wrong with your child goinf for a month. There is nothing wrong with calling everyday, heck, you can call twice a day if you want. Skype would be an added bonus. As long as you trust your mom, I say go ahead. And maybe you can get in some "Me" time and do something special for yourself. My mom took my daughter on a vacation for almost 2 weeks, and my daughter had a blast! Just saying that that could be such a great memory and it could also form a bond between grandmom and grandchild.

Medic - posted on 05/12/2011

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My kids have traveled and been away for multiple weeks starting early because my family likes to travel and my kids have never forgotten who I was or their daddy and the oldest was gone for 6 weeks at 2 years. Yes I miss my kids but they get opportunities to do things most kids can't (or don't because their parents wont let them).

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I have no doubt that my child will still remember me after a month, but it IS a long time. I, personally, feel that it is too long and no one that disagrees will ever get me to change my mind on that. If it's ok for you.... that's fine, but I don't agree w/ it for my family.



The longest my 9 year olds (then 8.5) have ever been away from me is 2.5 weeks w/ their father last summer. They had a great time, but I got a LOT of 'I miss you' and 'I want to come home soon' during that last week......

Melody - posted on 05/12/2011

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a two year old has a short memory. My sister sent her oldest son to my parents for just 3 weeks, while she prepared for and birthed her second child. When I took him home , he clung to me and was afraid to go to her. Yes, he over came it quickly, but just seeing how quickly a child that age can "forget" who their mother is, that is a scary thing. Why cant your mother come , get a hotel, or rent a room and spend time daily with your daughter??

Amber - posted on 05/12/2011

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@ Jennifer~ A month is too long for me because I'd miss my child too much.

Victoria - posted on 05/12/2011

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I wouldn't let her do it for a month either. We had the opportunity to travel to Europe for 10 days and my son stayed with my mom then, but I did feel badly about it. I missed him! If you are ok with it, then go for it. If you are iffy, what about asking her to take him for 2 weeks instead? A month is a long time.

Medic - posted on 05/12/2011

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Why is a month too long???? Do yall think that the child will forget??? I am just not getting this no way no how attitude that some are having.

Amber - posted on 05/12/2011

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My in laws live 5 hours away. Now that my son is older, he can go up there for a week at a time. I would potentially be ok with 2 weeks. I just think a month is too long. Can she stay with you part of that time?

It is great that your mom wants to be part of her life though. I would encourage the relationship and try to compromise.

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Nope. No way. Not for a month. My mom lives 3000 miles away and I wouldn't even consider having my kids be that far away from me. My dad lives 15 minutes away and the longest he's had my kids (well, the older 2) is a weekend.

If my ex has the funds for the tickets, my kids (9,9, and 3) will be spending 4 weeks w/ him this summer. I am GLAD that they will get to see their father (IF the trip happens, of course), but I'm not looking forward to any of them being gone that long. A week or two... fine, but four? I just couldn't do it if I had any other choice.

Medic - posted on 05/12/2011

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When we lived a few states away my parents took my son who was then 2 for 6 weeks so he could spend time with both sets of my parents. He had a blast and I talked to him on skype every day. We drove to meet them half way so it is nice she is wanting to fly.

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