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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/28/2012

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YOU NEED to get a lawyer! Seriously, that is the ONLY way. Especially if he is trying to make you pay outside of the court system. Don't let this man emotionally abuse and control you. You are not married, and he has no control over you. Believe it or not YOU have more power than he does with any information smearing his character, and exposing the truth about his finances.

Pam - posted on 03/28/2012

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all children deserve child support, we would be outraged if a non custodial father tried to get out of paying, it should not be any different for a non custodial mother. They will determine how much you need to pay based on your childs needs, and your income. I appreciate how hard it is to start over, I had to do it myself, but it is our responsibility to support our children financially and emotionally till they are grown. Your anger toward your ex should not play into your relationship with your child, she needs you, try to enjoy that relationship with her as you heal from the damage from your relationship with her father.

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He sounds like a royal creep and I don't blame you one bit for being bitter, but if your daughter is not living w/ you.... you paying child support is HER right.. not his.



Have you gone to court? They will take both of your financial situations into account when determining the child support amount.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/28/2012

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Also, you never clarified...has this really been properly dealt with through the court system? Cause you cannot fake income. You can sick the IRS on him for that.

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Jessica - posted on 03/28/2012

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I understand completely where you are coming from! I have not lost custody of my son, but chose to allow him to live with his father (he is now 14!) because of his disrespectful behavior and other things. And we agreeded in writing that whe would not have me pay child support because it was my choice. Well anyways yyears pass and he then brings me to court demanding child support which I pay, not to mention my son never has anything he needs, he always comes to my house saying mom I need this for school, & I need a haircut, shoes etc. and it lisses me off cause I'm like what the heck is he doing with the child support spending it on his girlfriend? So I get my son what he needs cause I feel he should not do without due to his fathers reposobility! Cause I do not want my son to suffer, but still enrages me how the courts feel they have the right to demand us to pay this crap!

Autumn - posted on 03/28/2012

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My opinion is that you have painted yourself as the perpetual victim. Continue to pay any and all child support until the whole thing gets worked out through the courts and quit whining that your daughter has more than you do.

Vicki - posted on 03/28/2012

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It doesn't matter how much money he has! Do not skirt ur responsibility as a mother! She has more than u? Do u not want her to have the best of things? Wow!! I would have tried to be supportive but you are acting jealous and bitter and taking it out on your daughter. I would be asjamed of myself.....

Vicki - posted on 03/28/2012

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It is your responsibility until she is 18. We would say the same thing to him. Many people work a full time job, go to school and run their house and take care of kids....all the while being a single parent. Accept your duties as a mother and adult and deal with the life you have given yourself.

Autumn - posted on 03/28/2012

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Pay the child support! What is wrong with you? He should insist you pay child support. It is your responsibility to pay for YOUR child regardless of his income.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/28/2012

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Listen, you NEED to get a lawyer. Someone who is going to stand up for you and demand the correct information from him to present properly. I am sorry you are in such a bad situation, but gain your control back! Is there any way you can get custody? Or do you not want it?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/28/2012

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Has this been through the courts? Or is he just making you pay blindly?

Sara - posted on 03/28/2012

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I agree with Teresa they will take both incomes into account when they determine the payment and he does sound like a royal creep!

take pride in the fact that you contribute to her care and remember its only till she's 18

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