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Sarah - posted on 01/02/2016
I am a bit late to the post...a week in rural Kentucky will do that.
My own mother was 35 when she had me and 37 when she had my sister. I am in my mid 40s now. When I was a kid, everyone seemed to have young mothers, but all of my friends love my mom the most! She taught me so very much and I loved her tremendously and her age never factored into any part of our lives! Had it not been for an unfortunate fall, which led to a head injury from which she did not recover, she'd still be my best friend. That accident had nothing to do with her age and I was in my 40s when is happened anyway.
I had my 4th when I was 34 but my hubby was 45! She is 11 and dad is almost 56. When your number is up, it is up. Live, enjoy your baby. It won't be fun ofr iether of you if you are worried all of the time. Like you said; you don't have a crystal ball, but if you are in reasonable health let it go.
Sarah - posted on 01/02/2016
Sometimes I think some people put themselves to early death by focusing on death. It is proven that a person told by a doctor that they have a month to live may live 10 years when they look at life in a positive manner, live their life to the fullest each day expands their life. The person that is told by the doctor they have a month to live and goes home plans their funeral and sits and waits to die dies in 5 days. Hospice can be a sad place or it can be a peaceful place. Some people choose to live their last days enjoying those days. You get to choose which way you look at life. This could make your life shorter or longer. You get to choose what you focus on in life. Right now you are choosing to focus on death. You have a little baby growing in you....a new life, a new blessing, a new cycle of life. It is growing and developing each and every day. You can choose to focus on life and the joys that brings. There is nothing any of us can say or do it is a choice you have to decide to make.
Michelle - posted on 12/31/2015
I had my 2 older children in my 20's and never thought I would have any more. I had my 3rd at 35 and it's been the best experience. When she was little I had more patience than I had with my boys. I knew she was well and truly my last so I made sure I enjoyed all the stages.
My older ones were 8 and 6 when she was born and they loved helping with her as well. All 3 are really close and the oldest is now 14! I wouldn't give her back for the world.
Sarah - posted on 12/30/2015
I love my big age gap. There are 10 yrs. between my second and third. The rest all have 3 to 4 yrs between. I love that I have real helpers that can help cook, clean, and care for baby. I have real babysitters that can babysit. I love that all my kids have a special sibling bond with each other. I love that the older ones love to teach the younger ones. I love that I don't have baby on top of baby. I love that my husband and I can attend all of our kids' events instead of having one or two that won't have a parent there as they are attended other kids' events.
It takes sometime to adjust, but there are a lot of positives and joys once you do.
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Nicole - posted on 01/01/2016
I have 3 children that I gave birth to and 1 step daughter, my oldest daughter I had at 19 yrs old she will be 11 this July my middle daughter I had at 23 she will be 8 in August and my youngest daughter I had 21 days before I turned 30, my husband and I are trying for one more baby before we are both to old (he turns 50 and i turn 40) I understand your feeling about being too old but rest assure you will be an excellent momma to your little one :)
Jodi - posted on 12/30/2015
Don't worry too much about the gap. I had two miscarriages before I had my youngest, and as a result, there is a 6 year age gap between her and her closest sibling. It all worked out fine. Our lot are 23, 18, 16 and 10. Big gaps.
Jodi - posted on 12/28/2015
Really? "Do you know anyone who is grown now, but had an older mom?"? I know heaps. That's just such a strange question given the average length of a lifespan these days. I am 46 and the mother of a 10 year old (I also have older children) and am perfectly healthy. My best friend from school's mother was well into her 30s when she had her, and she still has her mum around and SHE is still healthy. MY mother was in her 30s when she had my youngest brother......he is 38 and my mum is still travelling the world with my dad. My husband (50) unfortunately lost his father this year - his dad was 87, so was well in his 30s when my husband was born.
I think your fears are totally unfounded. 30 is young. 33 is young. 35 is young. If you take care of yourself, you have many, many years left to spend with your children.
Dove - posted on 12/28/2015
I gave birth to my last at 31, but I know several people who gave birth in their late 30's and even early 40's. Anyone can die at anytime, but if you are in relative good health... I wouldn't waste time worrying about the 'what ifs'... ♥
Sarah - posted on 12/28/2015
In today's world most people are living well into their 70's with many people living into their 80's and 90's. The biggest thing is to take care of yourself. Also remember at anytime in our life we may die. There are people that die before they reach their teens, some die in their early 20's. There are car accidents, fires, floods, etc. We don't know the future. All we can do is live the safest we can and enjoy the time we do have. I am 40 yrs old and have a grandmother that is in her 90's still alive. My guess is that she never thought she would live into her 90"s. As far as old mom verses young mom I thing that is all in how you act. My older kids have some friends with older patents and really the only ones they think are old are the ones that act old. If all you do is sit home and complain about aches and pains then you seem old. If you are active and out doing things and participating along with your child they see you as young. Sometimes old gives you an advantage....you are more financially secure. You can do more fun things with your kids. We like to travel. We have done Disney many times, gone on a Disney cruise, hiked in the Grand Caynon, gone to water and amusement parks, etc.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015
Oh love you are not to old! You are still rather young. Many women are not even starting their families until 35 and older. One of my co-workers is pregnant with her second and she is 40....just had her first daughters first b day while she was already 2 months pregnant!
Sarah - posted on 12/27/2015
I had my first at 22 yrs. Second at 26 yrs. Third at 35 yrs. And fourth at 39 yrs. 33 yrs is nothing. Enjoy! Plus you have babysitters that can really help out. You get a chance to enjoy the littleness again with also the persective of how fast they really do grow up. Enjoy all those new moments you get to have one more time.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015
You are way over thinking things. Just take care of you and baby, and enjoy your pregnancy. I am sorry for your families illnesses, but please don't build your life around when you are going to die, and what of. THat is no way to live. If you need more support, certainly look for advice here, but if you are suffering panic attacks because of this, you may need professional intervention,
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