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Julia - posted on 09/07/2013

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Good Luck! I would just focus on my son not the bullies. It sounds like the school is not dealing with the bigger issues.

Robin - posted on 09/07/2013

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He actually has a Sr Orange Belt in Kempo. He knows how to use Arnise Sticks (prob spelled that wrong), Sai's, & can break boards with his fist. He is just told not to get in trouble at school by us so he tries not to. I even told him he can't fight in school but I wasn't mad at him, he did what he had to do. Going Monday to check out a new school for him.

Julia - posted on 09/06/2013

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That's terrible! Totally different situation. Have you thought about putting your son in Martial Arts. My so has done karate and they talk a lot about bullying and how to handle it. They don't advocate using your karate to stop bullying they advocate using your words (being firm when telling someone to stop) and using your body language. Then if someone goes to hit you how to defend yourself from being attacked. Who gets picked on isn't only about size. Body language is a big part too.

If the problem is really bad do you have any options for changing his school? Can he go to a magnet school instead? Is there an affordable religious affiliated school near by? My son goes to Catholic school. Plenty of the kids are not Catholic. The classes tend to be small and close knit. For example there are only 22 6th graders so it is different then a really big school. It is more of a family environment (not to say there are never issues). Also because the school is so small teachers and the principle get to know kids better and don't just have a by the book rule philosophy. I have found it is just a much better environment for my son than a big impersonal public school.

Robin - posted on 09/06/2013

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I'm not mad at him for hitting. Actually I'm glad he finally stood up for himself! He is in 6th grade & this is the first time he got in trouble at school at all. I'n just looking for a way to help him with the bullying cause the school isn't. He is truly amazing & has the biggest heart: but he is very sensitive, small (shortest in the whole 6th grade class), & sounds like a chipmunk with a squeak (starting to go through the change of life). This makes him easy prey. As for why they can't tell me what rout they took with the other kids, they say it would violate their privacy. In fact when my son hit the kid they wasn't going to tell me who he hit, I just knew & told them. They acted shocked I could have known.

Julia - posted on 09/05/2013

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I can't see your whole post so in not sure what you are asking. But here is a repost of a post I made for another conversation about how to handle a kid who was hitting.

Maybe you could come back and post more info for the other moms trying to help you.



1) role play alternate behaviors

2) create a sticker chart where multiple days of successful behavior equal a reward

3) when hitting happens have a non physical consequence.



More work than a quick smack but in this situation teaching a kid not to hit by hitting them just doesn't make sense.



I think it would be better to call the police station and talk to an officer to see if they would let you visit the station and talk to him is better than hitting him.

I also recommend the following 2 books:
Parenting with Love and Logic
How to Behave so Your Children Do

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