Toni - posted on 04/07/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
Y cant I get pregnant when I want to? Y is it so hard? 15, 16 year olds who aren’t even trying can so easily get pregnant but when a couple really wants to start a family or add to the family its so hard. I don't want to have to work at it I don’t want to have to take my temperature every morning or use O.C.T.'s (Ovulation Calculating Tests) or watch for my fertile days, I just want to do it. I want a big family and its just not happening. What am I supposed to do? I want so bad to have another child. I’ve heard it all before from; you want it too much, or you haven’t been trying that long, or your underweight and they said I couldn’t because of that, now I’m normal sized and its still not happening. So what is it now? How long do you have to keep trying? My son took over a year at this rate I will never have my big family. I'm 28 going on 29 and although that sounds young in baby making years its old especially if you want a big family. I don’t want to still be trying when I'm 40, where there can be complications and pregnancy is just harder. Are there others that feel the same? Back in the day couples got pregnant and had families of like 13 kids, how? I myself come from a family of 5 children. No one has even that many children any more Y? Even if I wanted to I don’t think I will be able to, Y? I'm just miserable thinking about it I just cry and cry, I just feel like the biggest failure as a person and as a woman. I just keep asking myself Y? Y? Y? Is it so hard? I wasn’t going to try to get pregnant again so early after my son but I love being a mom so much I had no idea how I was going to feel but its the best thing ever and I want to have at least 3 or even 5 more but its just not that easy and its a constant reminder that I might not get to have them. My husband and I made the most beautiful baby with the best character, so easygoing and pleasant.
My sister gets pregnant so easily she just thinks about it and it happens it drives me crazy, I love her but it hurts me every time she tells me she’s pregnant again. The worst for me is that she says # 3 is the last one when she can have as many as she wants. Mean while I'm here trying desperately to get pregnant again, I want to have a big family and she doesn’t but yet she’s the one who gets pregnant at a drop of a hat and I cant. It’s just so frustrating. I’m sorry for that rant but this is really the only place I have to open up and really say what I’m feeling. This seems like the only place where people understand what I’m going through and there is always up lifting comments from you all and I could really use it today. So thank you all in advance for saving me from myself.
I know I’m not alone and to all the other couples out there that are having the same kind of problems I’m so sorry and I feel your pain and disappointment I really genuinely do and I wish you the best of luck and a baby in your future.